Mighty cold out there this morning. Fortunately, there’s no wind. It was crystal clear when we started our walk this morning - plenty of stars (and planets) to see. By the time we finished our walk, it was starting to cloud over. So we’ll maybe see a little snow again today.
On the plus side, this is supposed to be the coldest day for a while; we might actually hit 30 this weekend.
If you need me, I’ll be curled up in front of the fire with a big cup of coffee.
Same here. 46° when I left the house at 6:15. Intolerable!!!
#dfmb
Yeah, we are supposed to have snow again, and though we have been dry, I’d gladly send that moisture to LA if it were possible. I think what they need most, though, is for the winds to drop. Maybe we can find them some Tidesages.
And you went out walking in it??!! I am hiding inside. Although you make me feel like I SHOULD get off my butt and go walking anyway. The sun is out and what is left of our snow is pretty and sparkly. The high winds make it really unpleasant though. They touch my ears and make them hurt. I have issues with ear touching.
Building noises 
In the large main room, just outside the cozy couch fireplace room we tend to use, there is now a new wooden buffet server counter. A sign says “SELF SERVICE COFFEE GADGETS” (use at your own risk). You note this room is also the one with the gnome coffee pool over by their fireplace so are a bit suspicious. There is an assortment of coffee presses, pour over pots, steaming little one cup makers with funny pods, etc. Cannisters of coffee varieties line the back of the counter and a huge electric kettle sits nearby.
/Heads to the kitchen and preps the rest of the lounge essentials. Sets out coffee vats, hot water for tea, assorted teas, cocoa, marshmallows, coffee toppings, warm coffee cake, fruit, fixings for breakfast sandwiches (eggs, bacon, cheese, sausage). There is a to-go packet that looks like it has paw prints on it.
Stay warm and safe everyone. Help those you can help.
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Strange trivia: I have never had bobo bubble tea stuff. Someone kindly took us to a boba place near the Irvine Blizz campus and I was super confused and overwhelmed. Boba is a texture oddness thing. I could not even order anything like a normal human and defaulted to a normal cold tea latte or something.
Yeah. I have fleece lined pants, and a heavy parka for just such instances. Add mittens, a knit hat, and a face mask, and I’m good to go.
And if I don’t go, the dog wants to play while I’m working, and that doesn’t always work well.
They do have a LOT of options at the ones near me - many of which I don’t actually like so that makes it easier. There are tons of different flavored “popping” pearls which, as the name suggests, pop in your mouth. I really don’t like that sensation. (It’s one of the reasons I also don’t like any kind of fish eggs.) Regular tapioca pearls (traditional boba) are also definitely different, texturally. I like them but at least they don’t pop.
I had my first bubble tea just before the pandemic made us all stay home and at the time I could only find three places to get it in my mid sized city. Surprisingly, two of them were in my neighborhood, more or less. Now there are a bunch more places.
Eh - just give me a nice cup of coffee or a hot tea. Or an iced coffee (doesn’t need any flavor, just the proper amount of cream and sugar).
Hey.
Just a day I feel like I’m against the world.
I really want someone who’s arguing with me to say I can’t read one more time, so I can just explode. I’ll eat whatever the consequences are.
Everyone treats me like an idiot and I’m kinda fed up with it. Doctors, receptionists for doctors, family and the internet at large it feels.
/hug
Hope your day gets better.
I don’t think it’ll ever change. I remember my liver team coordinator sending an email to me and my family saying, “I know he doesn’t want to eat, but make sure he does.”
Shortly after my transplant I was throwing up anything I was taking in because I had a severe reaction to a medication I was taking. It wasn’t a matter of want, but ‘can’t’. Seeing as she was doing nothing to help I had to admit myself to the ER after losing 40 pounds and after much resistance I had said medication changed after nearly having my kidneys shut down.
It’s just the way of things. People think I’m stupid and I guess I gotta defend myself or say nothing.
I just got a call from my pharmacy. One of my meds that’s up for renewal was declined by my insurance. They no longer cover it. I can pay for it myself if I want to. $1500, not gonna happen. Still waiting to here from my Dr. about changing it.
Ayukama put up a nice thread in general wishing people in LA the best. Some awful trolls jumped in and totally wrecked it. Some people are really disturbed.
How frustrating!
I have to ask though, why do you think that is a pattern that happens across multiple spaces. Medical, the internet, etc? I find I am usually doing something or failing to communicate something, that makes people draw the wrong conclusions. I am on the spectrum though so I tend to always analyze interactions like this. I am not implying you did anything WRONG.
Just trying to think of any ways you can make it better and maybe prevent that irritating assumption on their part.
Sorry to hear that. Dealing with insurance is such a pain because, yeah, all too many medications cost a ton and it’s not like you can just go without them.
I have to get new insurance soon and I have no idea what I’m going to do about that. Getting prescriptions will easily go into the thousands of dollars.
I wish I knew of a better solution than the one we got.
It’s probably something I’m doing. I’m on the spectrum as well and I’m sure that’s probably not doing me any favors. I’m just accepting at this point that I don’t really get along with people too well outside of a work environment.
Maybe I’m reading too deep into conversations and thinking they’re personal attacks when that’s not intended. Maybe I’m wrong, I don’t know. All I know is it’s probably better I keep my mouth shut because it seems to just make things worse if I try to speak up or argue or do anything of the sort.
Kinda like here. There’s wildfires going on and I’m opening my trap and derailing things. Sorry.
I had a follow-up appointment the other day. It was six months later. I got there on the day and time it said on the card they gave me. They said I missed my appointment because it was supposed to be the day before. I showed them the card. They said the Dr never works on that day and it was my fault for not checking first. 
They said they would be nice and not charge me for a no call no show because the card was wrong.
Indeed. I was sorry to have to close it. As a displaced Californian, I appreciated the sentiment. <3
This thread is not about wildfires though, it is about you, me, and all our fellow CS regulars. Our merry little band. It is about food, fun, frustrations, failures, and fantastic successes.
Your thoughts on how you interact with people are perfectly welcome - especially seeing as I directly asked you to tell me those 
I tend to read and internalize things really fast so people think I missed it. I learned to say something like “I see here that X and Y” or whatever. I also tend to make a list of questions based on what I read so that I can have something to show my understanding, and get the additional info I need.
I have a whole outline I wrote for my Psych appointment today. Not a long outline, but an outline.
I tend to err on the side of sharing too much info - esp on subjects I am interested in. Nobody things I failed to read, they think I come off as a know-it-all who is bragging or something.
Ah well. I just try to find that happy medium.
Trying to deal with this medicine stuff has me far from merry. Once I get it all straightened out, I will return to what serves as normal for me.
As someone who worked in a hospital for a while I can confirm that’s it’s easy to come to that conclusion. Medical staff deal with a lot of patients and empathy runs out quickly. It’s easy to to put the wrong tone of voice in when you say something to a patient.
The dishonest patients start to blend in with the patients who are honest, or are at least trying to be.
Sets out brunch eggs 5 ways and then some fresh coffee tea hot chocolate left over xmas baking sniffs the coffee pots replaces all of them.
I just don’t know what to do.
Family gatherings I try to share things I’m interested in, and I get cut off by them going on about some obscure friend or relative I have no communication with. Any discussion I try to have about a game I care a lot about tends to boil down to an argument that seems to get personal in a hurry.
I don’t have any friends in game or in real life. In fact the only people who really visited me were my parents during my hospital stays, and it’s running a bit late in my life to think that will ever change.
Hell even when working I always feel like the people I’m trying to help are just judging me. I had people throw trash at me at a few of them.
Maybe that’s why I turned to drinking. They call it ‘liquid courage’ to socialize and all it did was just make it all worse.
I wish I could get in contact with my PsyD. They never reached back out after the last failed attempt to set up a remote appointment and I’d rather not hear the receptionist say it’s all my fault for a third time now.
I can understand that. I really felt bad that I had to be taken care of to such an extreme level, but it kinda hurt to think I was trying to evade doing things like a child trying to get out of school for the day.
I know I had nurses who withheld or didn’t give me information, or did things that very much hurt: Had one give me an IV that was way too big and was actively hurting my arm, and dropped my medications to the floor and just up and left despite my protests. I try not to be mean to nurses because I’m sure the job is hell but having her completely ignore my protests was pretty painful in multiple ways.
She didn’t come back after that. I didn’t say anything rude or mean, but I guess she didn’t want anything to do with me.