I haven’t ever needed to ignore someone, and I suck. I only had a handful of toxic encounters in the past 15 years, and most of those were during vanilla.
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Toxic fora
No, real life is by far more unforgiving. But the same principles apply.
The answer isn’t to try and limit adversity. That’s simply never going to happen, and the more you try and clamp down, the more resistance you’re going to find. In the end, you WILL lose. There’s never going to come a day when those punches stop coming. That’s wishful and entitled thinking. The best you can hope for is that people show some common courtesy, decency, respect, and compassion; and you can’t choose that for people, they have to be free to show that on their own.
Also, you’re never going to get that courtesy, decency, respect, or compassion on a 1:1 ratio. If you’re extremely lucky you might see it 10% of the time. More likely something like 5% and then only if people see you’re getting the $#!% kicked out of you royally.
You are correct though. Not everyone is that strong, or that capable. But I think a good place to start would be talking to someone you know is having a rough time and asking them point blank “Are you hurt, or are you injured?” Someone who’s hurt can go on, someone who’s injured can’t. In both cases you’re showing compassion, but also respecting that person’s agency and potential.
Internet people, win some lose some. Or do the smart thing and don’t engage with crazy.
I think the only time my ignore list was ever in any danger of maxxing was the pvpbank324234287 era.
I’m just trying to live my life as conflict and adversity free as possible. Years of bullying and abuse have reduced me to the point where I’m afraid to leave my house. I’m not a strong person at all and im afraid of finding myself in a situation where I have to fight off a person who refuses to wear a mask. Because I am not going to win.
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I think that is the root of your problems. If you flip through my io page, you’ll see that I PUG a lot of stuff, and in my experience, people generally never snap over human error. It’s when people wander into a +15 key without knowing basic mechanics that the “toxicity” begins, and at that point, the idiot slowing down everyone else deserves whatever comes his way.
On the other hand, if you aren’t even max level yet, and you see people rage in chat, just know that they’re probably pathetic LFR raiders on their main and pay them no mind. Actual good players would just leave the group without wasting time typing to new players.
and guess what tons of people in mythic plus dont do pvp, you can inspect them to check
Shut up, Noob 
I grew up with a father that came back from the Vietnam war with severe PTSD and uncontrollable anger issues, and a narcissistic mother who to this day cannot acknowledge she is ever wrong about anything and will not hesitate to find fault with anyone else.
That resulted in me going through public schools in a perpetual ‘survival mode’ where I was constantly bullied and antagonized. Fist fights I didn’t go looking for were a regular thing, and I lost as many of them as I won and even the ones I won didn’t seem like anything to brag about.
I’d go to school to escape home life, I’d come home to escape school, and I’d fall asleep to get away from both. And I dreaded the alarm clock going off in the morning.
So don’t think I’m preaching to you as someone who’s had it easy. It took me so long to pick up the the emotional pieces and do something with them. To reconcile with my parents. To forgive the people who’d pushed me around. To come to pity the people who felt the need to do that to people.
When I say “We ARE our scars”, I’m not just trying to be cute, memeing Illidan. I earned them. All of them. And scar tissue is tougher than the skin it replaces, but it still aches from time to time. That’s the price.
The fact that you’ve gone through something similar? Makes you worth talking to in my book. And I hope that you eventually come out on top of your own problems, but whether or not you do? It doesn’t matter. Because you’ve endured them and you own them.
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tons of people don’t act like that
the ignorance is too much for me
I feel like I’ve just barely endured them, and only met the minimum threshold by simply still existing. Even though honestly I think about performing “the act” every day. The world feels overwhelming and I’m just not sure I can handle it anymore. I can’t even handle a simple computer upgrade job, which is why I’m currently on the forums, because I have nothing else to do as my computer is currently non gaming viable. How am I supposed to continue surviving in the world?
Well, hopefully the knowledge that you’re not alone will help. Also that there are people you’ve never met that are rooting for you.
After that? It’s all just real-world problem solving. As long as you realize the former and try your best with the latter? I’d say there’s no shame you should feel like you have to carry around.
Hello fellow adult child of a narcissistic mother.
I feel your pain. Mine’s abuse caused me to develop PTSD, I’ve been diagnosed with it. I finally went full no contact last year.
Basically, the point is, I tried to upgrade my computer on my own the only way I knew how, by asking people on forums what to do and hoping for the best. And because I’m so terrible at everything, and screwed the whole thing up, the only thing left I know how to do is to metaphorically curl up into a ball and cry. It just makes me wonder how I’m going to survive with anything else, particularly a job once this pandemic ends. I’m 37 and feel like an utter failure.
Ummm… yes, you can attack others in “sanctuary areas”, you only can’t if you have safe space mode as your default.
You’re name is Hahahah…its hard to take anything you say very seriously. Grow up…stop worrying about what other people say and think so much…that’ll help you a lot in life.
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Kind of off topic, but that sounds way too hot for a CPU to function. IIRC the default shutdown is 90 degrees. Multicore processors can run hot. Kind of makes me wonder if you’re running any kind of CPU cooler at all. If so, sounds like some maintenance needed. If not, i’d probably pick up either a good heat sink + CPU fan or a liquid cooler. Could be a cheap fix?
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I remember Eve Online. I’ve heard stories… boarderline horror stories. People working an entire year to get their clones ranked up in piloting and financing, etc, just to pilot a high-tier ship. And if you forget to back up your clone, an entire years worth of research and skill development is effectively destroyed.
Also, if you have a bad rep, or piss off the wrong person, the game will become unplayable for you. Also, you learn to trust nobody. Six months of getting on a guild leaders good side just to suicide gank them and the entire guild.
That game can (and will) test peoples emotional and psychological fortitude.
For sure. I don’t want to derail too much either, but I’m just kind of wondering if a CPU cooler means something as simple as a little extra fan to put next to the tower. I’m totally ready to buy whatever I need to get this issue solved.