Forum Life: How Do You Interact?

[Thelei-stormrage]

Honestly it depends greatly on the OP of the thread. You can tell if they are here to discuss or simply troll. I treat each thread in kind as to how the thread (or post I’m responding to) is authored.

[Dracarian-medivh]

We all love a good mystery box Unless there is a button involved.

[Hèrne-moon-guard]

@Dracarian-medivh

Unless there is a button involved.

Pulls out the global nuke toggle
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qnSZMDmUpa4

[Sendryn-sentinels]

@Tiresias-moon-guard

I always find it more interesting to start off in good faith, you could be surprised, but I never forget who I am engaging with.

Another !

@Mustachio-eredar

Maybe I’m misunderstanding here but… If you find yourself in combative situations more often than not, wouldn’t that make you part of the problem?

Not necessarily. If you notice, there are people who like to twist things just to get mad, snarky or insulting.

That’s usually when things start to go south.

For instance, the other day I said, “My servers are still pretty busy,” in response to someone saying the game is dead. Someone else decided to snap at me with something along the lines of, “I guess that means the game is in perfect condition and there’s nothing wrong at all with it, right??”

People say one thing, others misinterpret it to start a fight. Happens a lot.

[Ellerina-proudmoore]

I remember that thread lol

[Balthazarre-whitemane]

@Dracarian-medivh

We all come here to read, and sometimes to comment. Some of us get caught up in the topic. Some of us just read and move on. But I am curious, which chatter are you?

Option A: Discuss - Here to talk about the topic
Option B - Insult - Here to simply insult those who disagree
Option C - A & B - Start out discussing but somehow end up insulting whether in offense or defense
Option D - Bored - You’re here to read, laugh, chat, or lightly troll dependent on the topic and the level of your boredom. (edited to add this by popular answer)

If you are Option A, how do you maintain your composure, even when faced with unreasonable and mean spirited individuals? If you are Option B, why do you feel insulting or name-calling others strengthens your position?

I originally came here for A. Since I never really found it, I now come for option D exclusively.

I do my best not to insult, but some peoples’ egos are so fragile it’s going to happen regardless.

[Mustachio-eredar]

@Sendryn-sentinels

That’s usually when things start to go south.

It’s just so hard to stand on the “high-moral” ground leg sometimes, especially when it happens so often. To the point it feels like the only appropriate answer to the OP’s question is “100% Option A and Option C.”

Man… I feel like I’m in a bad Mel Gibson chick flick but Ashton Kutcher is actually saving it somehow.

[Starlagosa-dentarg (Starlagosa)]

Thanks for sharing, Drac.
I think, from what I’ve seen, you describe yourself well.

[Tiresias-moon-guard (Tiresias)]

Standing on the “high-moral” ground is pretty nebulous and can lead to being “attacked”. The only high-moral ground I stand on deals with children, people with minds like children, and animals. After that my stance is to try to understand where people are coming from and even better understand my opinion. How I came to form that opinion and if it is wrong due to poor understanding/ misinformation. I question myself all the time, that is how I grow. Sometimes it is easy and sometimes it is hard.

[Mustachio-eredar]

Just being completely honest and real with you, the way you write (And even the way you have your character designed in your little icon) feels stand-offish. Bear in mind that’s my perspective (By no means am I saying everyone feels that way) so take it however.

So I dunno? This thread’s been a little eye-opening, sobering even. Neutrality seems to be about the only place I should be.

[Fuzzbutt-zuljin]

I got a reply somewhere in here but I cannot find it.

I found the 1 but not the other.

[Tiresias-moon-guard (Tiresias)]

No, I am farmer
points to title and pitchfork transmog
See my emotional support chicken Lucille and my glasses are because I have low vision.

I don’t think I have ever been called stand-offish, my husband did say I was intimidating when we first met online. I am not offend by any means but this is how I speak for the most part so I type like this as well. Without being able to see my expressions or tone I can see how some may feel I am stand-offish.

I don’t see a reason for neutrality if that is not how you feel. Even more so if you are making the choice out of fear or rejection. Having an opinion is never bad. What is bad is when you become unwilling to evaluate why you have that opinion. I have had some pretty crap opinions that changed once I really questioned them. Some that just got stronger.

[Dojacàt-moon-guard]

Generally here to vibe when my sub is active, sometimes with a silly mindset. So mostly A i’ll say.

[Crumbs-saurfang (Crumbs)]

I’m always a D. I’m generally kind but sometimes I love trolling a little bit lol. Sometimes I can’t help myself. The PvP community raised me, nuff said

[Dreamer-pagle]

Hardly I would say. I’m here for s- and giggles mostly. Sometimes I will poke fun though.

[Vortimer-proudmoore]

@Dracarian-medivh

But I am curious, which chatter are you?

Option A: Discuss - Here to talk about the topic

A

@Dracarian-medivh

If you are Option A, how do you maintain your composure, even when faced with unreasonable and mean spirited individuals?

Maturity does a lot bring comprehension that some people will not accept that they are wrong if you tell them; no amount of “lack-of-composure” helps that situation. Forgive them for they are the bottom-80% that believes they are in the top-20% (Dunning-Kruger). Maturity also means realizing you don’t know everything and could be wrong, then admitting that you’re wrong with grace rather than having to have the last word on everything.

It’s a forum… unless someone is stalking your IRL location and threatening you, there’s nothing to be gained from engaging with unreasonable and/or mean-spirited individuals, so disengage (that’s you taking the high road, not stooping to their level).

There’s a lot of tantrum-level child behavior from supposed adults, but being over 18 (an adult) doesn’t mean you have maturity (wisdom to know how to politely disagree by asserting sourced facts, rather than attacking an individual).

[Saángreal-moon-guard (Saángreal)]

I just realized that A starts the conversation. C is looking for a fight. D gets bored and picks a fight with C.

AC/DC

Very clever OP

[Sôsari-dalaran]

@Dracarian-medivh

I know for me, trolling is often someone picking a fight, with inflammatory language, without me ever chatting to them directly.

Is this sarcasm because you self insert your self into arguments constantly.

@Sendryn-sentinels

(Had to find someone who quoted the OP to know what’s going on, since I stopped reading from this person the moment they started coming into threads to belittle people and insult them over their opinions in the MM threads.)

Lol this was gold.

[Dracarian-medivh]

I can assure you, I did not plan it that way however I do love that it came out that way

[Dracarian-medivh]

option B. Got it.