You’re taking individual examples, and then convincing yourself that they’re sweeping generalities.
What really damages the game is impatient ignorant people that distort their reality with their hyperbole because they expect the universe to also distort around their gripes.
The sort of players that rationalize chronic afk probably also sell themselves on bad lies because it takes less effort to do ‘nothing’ than to learn to skillfully play a game, or put in an honest interpretation on reading.