Don’t get it twisted, I’m not a “safe-space” triggered soft person. I’m a grown man and former D1 football player. I thought I was tough until I meet the group finder community.
The toxicity from people from group finder is incredible. Today in 2 different groups players were voted to be kicked out for having below average DPS. Seems harsh. I voted not to kick the player and then I was kicked out for asking to give them another chance. To be clear, these were all random people. I didn’t know any of them.
As the day went on, I have seen people either say nothing, or say something negative. There is nothing in between. Not one positive word. I always say “hello” when the group starts, I rarely get a return “hello”.
How is this a good experience for anyone?
Edit: I concede later in this thread that quiet people are not rude… but kicking people for not being the worlds most optimal player is lame.
I rarely, if ever experience this in group finder. In all of my years since LFD was introduced, this is rare to me— and I run a lot of LFD for alts, Timewalking, etc.
If you want to ensure you aren’t going to run into people having a bad day or acting childish, you can run with friends, your guild, a community or for keys, use WoW Made Easy.
Well, that was a nice humorous post to me. So, uh, point for me
I think it stems from an ease with which we can tear others down whereas it’s much more difficult to lift people up. It’s easier to complain about “that dps that doesn’t kick” versus typing “hey, ima try and kick [SUPER ULTRA MEGA DEATH RAY] but back plz help”. And I don’t blame people for not typing.
Every random I join Indy “hey!” And try to comment throughout the run. I love chatting and riffing off others. It’s good fun to me.
I have not done a lot of groups. Just getting back in the game. Just my short term experience. But it seems no one wants to talk, they want to focus on a quick dungeons run. That’s ok, but booting people for not doing enough DPS seems odd to me.
People are cruel unless given a reason not to be. Blizzard’s consequences for breaking ToS with toxic behavior are so hard to activate that they can barely be said to exist. And so, many players are rude, mean, and petty because, like children or animals, they see no obvious reason not to be, no punishment. That’s just something you have to accept and learn to disregard if you mean to play this game for any length of time. Report, ignore, and move on.
Team competition + strangers doesn’t seem like a recipe for fun but that’s just me. You might try turning chat off, and just enjoying the game with happy little NPCs. Or if you want to leave it on, maybe it would work to chat with them before starting so you’re at least acquaintances? Remember, if they are rude before the key, they’ll be even more rude during the key, so chatting before-hand and kicking/leaving toxics is a good way to save time and sanity.
