I think honestly a lot of the same experiences in my life may have still occurred, but I would feel a lot differently about things then I do now…
Think of this way, I’ve had some horrible toxic bad experiences with friendships in wow, and I find myself getting verbally attacked and blamed for stuff, but in FF14 I get enough commendations to get the Everybody’s Darling achievement, so when that happens I know the problem isn’t just me, it didn’t help also that last expansion everyone was in lockdown, and was on wow to seek out friendship and company.
Problem was the people around me on wow at the time were irritable and nasty, that was a result of both wow sucking bad at the time and the corona lockdowns…I am so glad those people are gone from my life now. It didn’t help also that in BFA didn’t have guild recruitment addon working, so annoying people were harder to replace with new members and whatnot…
The events of my wow life during corona lockdown did have quite an impact on me, where I really pushed myself to make sure that I would go that extra mile to make sure I only had good lovely people in my life, get that social network going…thinking about it, I might not have been pushed to do that if I didn’t have to deal with the most negative toxic people in wow last year haha,
Wow still sucked for me bad during 9.0, having an old friend come back into my life only to ditch me again back in March, but it was since March this year that new people did come into my life that have been much better for my mental health and well being…
Was part of an old church group where my old pastor was telling me to get off social media for 30 days, as if that was the source of all my problems, but I did the exact opposite for 30 days, I went nuts adding randoms on wow, and on other social sites, which led to me making quite a few real life friends that I wouldn’t have made otherwise, and at least 3/4 people that I know I could turn to for help if I was ever desperate.
Church group would blame social media for not being treated nice, but for me social media like wow is a teacher on how some people in life will treat you, that I know sadly a lot of people will ditch your friendship the moment they get into a relationship, sad but true…and they will look up for reasons to make it your fault while they ditched you, and blame you, but when in reality is it all happens shortly after they start dating someone, a bit sus.
In reality though being social is simply a numbers game, it’s only a matter of time before you meet that nice person that gets you and treats you right…though interestingly, although I might still be somewhat upset about being ditched by some people, because other people came into my life shortly after that are much better for my mental health and well being…
I mean it’s like the Jailer says…every soul has their purpose, and the friends that ditched me and buggered off have fulfilled theirs. Sounds brutal, but this attitude helps me deal with loss and rejection much better.