It’s difficult to take your post seriously, but I’ll do my best to consider it to be sincere, since it would be strange to waste your own time for no apparent reason asking questions you either feel you already know the answers to or aren’t intending to accept any, even if you don’t.
Similar with pretty much every other thing, one way is to spend a great deal of time engaged in doing it. It helps to have an interest, but that can (and often does) develop through spending a great deal of time doing something, particularly after becoming relatively proficient compared to others.
You’ve stated that you are in a premade discord and your server’s discord, and also using your server’s trade and general chat channels. Have you successfully formed or joined groups for dungeon parties or raids before? If that is something you are familiar with, there’s really not much difference.
If you’re curious about how you might organize a premade, here’s a guide:
Perhaps that will be of some help.
