My wife and I have been getting more and more fed up like you OP. But from our point there is a bit lacking in Horde PvP players on open world AND we’re on a serious negative when it comes to Win/Lost BGs. Yesterday we lost 5/6 epic BGs. And the epic we did win we actually killed Tremblane (first kill since season2. Had that quest for SOO long) And 3 out of 4 randoms were total horrible losses. We have only won the Brawl 1x since Tuesday as well. It’s like we’re playing with total new players on the Horde or we are getting paired with pre-made alliance groups all too often.
And don’t get me started on Warmode. WHERE IS THE HORDE??? I did a /who to help kill a bounty 3 days ago and there was 3 ppl in my shard/zone against a whole alliance party.
As far as your frustration, what class does your wife play? Is she experienced wow player? And did you buy the passive gladiator medallion trinket or the one you can toggle as you see fit. That makes a difference