What if someone here told you they cared and they were genuine? Would you STILL tell them they really didn’t when they do?
if you intentionally push people away, youre naturally not gonna be met with friendliness your way.
push pull push pull brotha npd or bpd cmon did i guess right
If you don’t like what I have to say, fine. But don’t you dare tell me what I feel, or why I say anything. That’s your number one accusation, so don’t do it yourself. I’m not going to treat you with kid gloves. This is some real talk. You don’t want kindness? Then piss off. I have enough problems. That’s life. You either take the hand that’s offered to you, or you ignore it.
No one is though. Empathy for someone in a similar situation is one thing, caring about someone to the point of a genuine connection is different. That’s what I’m talking about.
I know you mean well but this is kind of platitudal and really cliche.
It is easy for someone who hasn’t walked in the shoes of someone like me to sit on their high horse and tell me that it’s a permanent solution to a temporary problem as if every problem people are dealing with is temporary.
In the past two years I have:
- Been homeless—I will deal with the trauma for the rest of my life.
- Escaped a decade of abuse—I will deal with the trauma for the rest of my life.
- Suffered from treatment resistant severe depression—there is no cure and I don’t respond to treatment and this is a permanent problem I will deal with for the rest of my life.
- Been diagnosed with PTSD from abuse—I will battle this for the rest of my life.
- Faced systemic ableism in school that resulted in me flunking out—I will deal with financial hardship and bad marks on my GPA for the rest of my life. I will also deal with the trauma from this for the rest of my life.
- Faced transphobia, been misgendered.
- Will have to be on hormones for the rest of my life.
- Can’t work because of disabilities and will feel like a useless burden for the rest of my life.
These aren’t minor temporary problems.
For people like me there’s no such thing as a good day. There’s a bad day and there’s a worse day.
You make a lot of assumptions here.
This is good advice if you want to end up permanently losing your agency and ending up in an involuntary psychiatric lockdown.
Better advice is to call 211 and get a referral to a local sliding scale psychiatric clinic and speak to a psychiatrist.
Under no circumstances are you to tell the doctor that you have a plan unless you want to go to psychiatric jail.
If the drugs they give you are working you should tell your doctor immediately.
You should learn about your illness. You should learn about your meds. You should learn about other medicine options. You should advocate for yourself.
You should never be afraid to fire your psychiatrist.
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I mean if you keep building walls against people, the latter might not take hold.
I get it, this hits WAY too close to home and is patronizing to you, but it might not be for someone else. As selfish as it sounds, take a bit of a bigger view at it.
And this is why nothing any of us can say, not a single solitary thing, to make you feel differently. But that doesn’t mean the empathy of at least some of us isn’t genuine. As far as this sort of thing goes I don’t think I could be more empathetic if I tried because of my own experiences. It might not mean much to you, but I’m no less sincere.
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If you are living in a situation where the idea of caring about about another person who you see struggling, especially when it is in a similar fashion to yourself, as impossible, then I am sorry. If empathy for another is that foreign, then I think you are right; there isn’t a lot that I, in my limited knowledge of, and interactions with, you can do. I can, however, suggest that you find someone more capable than me to help you work through things. I can also express my hope that you are able to do so and that it goes well. Nobody deserves to suffer from mental illness, and it seems like you are in a lot of pain.
Kindness isn’t pretending to care about people.
What “hand” !? What are you even talking about!?
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So basically you’re defining what it is to “care”. You can’t care about someone unless you know them deeply. This is patently untrue. You’re arguing semantics. You know damn well that people are showing you sympathy so you’re propping up a strawman to argue in the whole ‘you don’t literally care because I define “care” differently’.
I mean if you’re going to ad caveats to the definition of “care”, then you can easily write off anything.
Care literally means “feel concern or interest”. That’s it. That’s all that’s required to care about something.
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It’s a metaphor, dude. Seriously? No, there’s a literal hand reaching through your monitor…
You’ve made this entire thread about you. You’re about as self-serving as they come. Your entire stance here, is MY DEPRESSION, MY PAIN, YOU CAN’T UNDERSTAND ME, YOU DON’T CARE ABOUT ME.
You responded to me to tell me how wrong you think I am.
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You got it bud. You came here to fight, and I’m done.
Interesting, responding to platitudes about mental illness with personal experience. You didn’t do that at all, did you?
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Thank you for putting it in a better way than I did.
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That’s sad. I’ve had 2 of my best friends (almost like brothers to me) commit suicide over the years. It’s not something family and friends ever get over.
My heart goes out to those affected.
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Commit implies that they have done a crime. It was decriminalized in like the 70s.
I understand what you were saying and I’m honestly surprised by the reactions and misinterpretations, although that happens a lot with text conversations. I sincerely think most people in this thread meant well.
Therapists don’t prescribe medicine. Psychiatrists do. And that’s basically their job. A psychologist or therapist is mostly talking. Social workers can’t prescribe anything. Only a few states in the US actually allow psychologists to prescribe medicine as far as I know.
If you go to a psychiatrist, you’re going to them to specifically have medicine prescribed.
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