And, assuming they’re not trolls, you don’t have to engage with any of them, use the terms they prefer, etc. It’s your choice to engage.
So you went to a server known for its ERP community…
I can’t recall any guild invites either on my server or linked servers that pitches gender orientation, sexual proclivities or anything else. There are a couple who are overtly Christian, or that specifically solicit adults (seemingly because they want to tell dirty jokes in guild chat), etc., but none that go full blue straight away.