Foster care is not a solution to unwanted pregnancies. Especially when the right also want to cut taxes. Unless every single pro-life person chooses to adopt there will be millions of unadopted kids.
I’ve fostered children. I know from personal experience how hard thier life is. So unless you plan on adopting, your words fall flat and lose credibility, especially since you said above, you are not financially ready for kids. Not many people are. These children don’t grow up mentally or physically stable. They grow up with severe psycological abandonment issues which leads to behavioural issues.
In many cases the foster system is a pipeline to prison. It’s not a good quality of life.
As someone who has given birth twice, with wanted pregnancies… birth is traumatic. It’s not just some easy thing. I actually got post traumatic stress from giving birth. The body takes over a year to recover. It’s not a choice I would force on anyone.
I’m not just regurgitating ideology. I’m sharing first hand experience as a woman and a mother. Also please understand that respectful debate is not attacking you.
I can roughly guess how surrogacy works. Very roughly.
I’m interested in your attitude to this. “Child trafficking” and the like.
In general, a clumsy attempt to “set fire to the bin”. Mda.
Bruh I once read an absolute horror story online where a young mother confessed on a forum how she just “didn’t love her kid”. She said she never wanted one, and she and her husband were fine with staying childless, but oopsie, it happened and social pressure from her parents and friends made her go through with the pregnancy.
Fast forward 4 years. She had hoped that the parental instinct everyone always talks about would kick in, but it didn’t. She is miserable. She feels 0 joy or connection to her daughter and only does the parent thing because she “has to”.
She felt very guilty about it, she was in therapy for it. Her husband had to work more and their relationship worsened for it, too. Not to mention that apparently her pregnancy wasn’t smooth and she had complications.
I was a teen when I read this confession, but it left an impression. I would never wish this upon anyone. You don’t want to be a child of someone who never wanted you and you don’t want to be a parent who knows they brought a soul into this world and then effectively abandoned them.
Sadly that’s all too real. My oldest son had complications and rejected me and was almost failure to thrive (I didn’t even know that was a thing babies could do but it’s called Child Detachment Disorder) it caused a lot of stress or me and my baby and I went through severe Post partum depression. He’s 10 now and we are closer than ever but the reality is having babies, even wanted babies, is not all sunshine and roses.
It’s stress, extistential dread, panic, and the worst kind of shame imaginable because now you are responsible for the survival of this other person. It’s a lot, physically, emotionally and mentally.
(Mind you I didn’t do myself any favors by reading Cormack McCarthy’s The Road during my pregnancy, that’s probably what stressed out my child )
The older I get the scarier the prospect of having kids is. I want to be a parent, in theory, but it just feels so daunting. What if you suck as a parent? What if you end up messing up your kid? What if they mix with the wrong crowd and you’re unable to save them?
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How to convince people to reproduce by telling them about all possible defects?
On the other hand, humanity as a species will experience a loss in numbers; at the same time, people will put up with complications; at least fake comforting tales will be formulated.
Hmm, should I rave about it.
The last part I read is when they tell what his name that they aren’t pursuing his agenda but taking Terra. And then I remember reading somewhere that the Clans were being beat the stuffings out of by some newer new thing.
Just a friendly reminder to those saying if a woman doesn’t want to risk having a kid than don’t have sex, us men are 100% at fault for those unwanted pregnancies. Should start telling men to have more self control
Men should also be more responsible for birth control, right now the responsibility to avoid pregnancy is entirely on women and men make excuses to avoid using condoms. Men should be socialized to be pro-active about male birth control too.
There should be more male birth control options than just condoms because generally speaking men don’t like wearing condoms. A male birth control in pill form should be available as well as vacetomies upon request.
Don’t get me wrong, I love kids, I have two nieces and my life wouldn’t be the same without them. I just hate the ultra conservatives putting the onus on women, forgetting it takes two people to make a baby
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