So, this is going to be a little personal, but I really need help because I’m not sure how to feel.
My gf has this friend and they’ve known each other longer than we’ve been together (we’ve been together for 6 years) and ever since I started playing Baptiste (a month ago) the friend (a Moira main) has been nit picking every little thing I do, and especially likes to rub it in that she has gold healing. She has told my gf that she doesn’t want to play with me because she feels like when she dies the team dies, which is hardly ever the case. Now she wants my gf to play Competitive with her and specifically requested that I not join.
As of now I have about 50 hours on Baptiste and everything I’ve done with him is getting better, from my reaction time on immortality to group healing with burst, accuracy with healing and overall positioning and awareness. I don’t want to give up on Baptiste (which I’m really passionate about) but I also don’t want to be excluded from playing with my gf and her friend (that I actually look up to and have no hard feelings against.)
We’re all in Gold btw.
What would you guys do in a situation like this?
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Unless you want to drive your gf away, let her make her own decisions about whether or not to play with her friend. You’ll have to decide for yourself if you want to stay with your gf depending on how she approaches the situation, but basically I’d advise you just be classy about the situation and don’t try to control it.
Whatever you do, keep playing what you enjoy.
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I would hope your girlfriend makes the right decision and lets you play who you want and with who you want. Being nice to her friend obviously isn’t working, so ask her to let you play too. That is a friend she’s known for a while, but you’re her significant other…
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I hear you. That’s what I’m trying to do but I’ll be honest, it’s making me really depressed being told I’m basically trash.
There’s no reason to submit yourself to abuse. Mute them or don’t play with them.
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I’m a bit confused here. If you have a girlfriend, why are you playing overwatch with her. Eff that why are you playing comp with her? This is one of the my rage inducing games out there and you play this one. I just play a chill game co-op games or something like warframe where you can’t get mad.
Also idk you can play another role or focus on improving your personal performance. If you ask me I’d just find another game to play that everyone can enjoy like warframe.
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I don’t get mad at anything in this game. I got over that in the first 2 years. Now I just focus on improving my performance and try not to judge other peoples actions.
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If this “friend” was actually a good friend they would not be requesting you were excluded from playing with them no matter how bad or good u are.
Playing with friends is about having fun, and besides how do you get better if you don’t play?
This friend just needs to accept you will improve over time and to take a chill pill.
What makes this even more funny is that you are all in Gold its not like, you are silver and they are Diamond so like??? Honestly.
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thats the best way of going at it. Idk how your friend would react or her friend would react if you just told her to chill because it’s a game and we all have to start somewhere. Playing with friends should be fun regardless of winning or losing. Me personally it’s about doing dumb stuff and us all laughing but I dont know anyone who plays this game anymore. I dont even play this game anymore i just sit on the forums
I guess they met in WoW where they were both healers in some really good guild and they were both elitist back then so my gf is just used to her being like that.
Quite the predicament. I would just talk to your girl about it and tell her that you ain’t want no beef with the broad, but you still want to play with her. Point out you are not the aggressor and you feel if she has a problem, she should probably go play on her own because the toxicity is making you feel bad. You do not want to be removed from the group just because she has something to say.
If she does not care about your opinion… Um, drop her like Conor hopes to drop Cowboy this Saturday, ESPN live.
Another tip I always give people is to just link this thread to her. You already put your thoughts out there without adjusting for tone because you never expected her to read it (and to that end, lul, you respect the Karen? Yikes) obviously. But getting tons of third party perspectives can help lead to clarity. Even if everyone said the opposite of what you wanted to hear, which I doubt, it can just expose her to more variables. If worse comes to worse. Like, if she is leaning on kicking you for whatever reason.
It is realistically a very easy solution to solve. You just tell the friend to knock it off and you pretend it never happened. Forgive and forget. Both people compromise and everyone gets to play together.
The other idea is that yo grill can play with her homie alone if you are not around. But if you get on, she should play with you. You are not the one setting boundaries. Ratchet can join if she want and you can leave them alone when they are together. That one is just oddly passive aggressive though. It is better to get the girlfriend to mediate the two of you and avoid kicking anyone from the group.
But you cannot stop the friend if she wants to leave. That being said, you could probably stop your girl from abandoning you. Nobody in their right mind would ditch a six year relationship because a gold medal Moira is out healing a Baptiste.
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It sounds to me like this friend is very controlling and is trying to diminish what you and your girlfriend have together. The way I see it is she’s bashing you to make herself sound like the better option to play with. Your girlfriend should be able to make the choice but if she’s choosing the friend more than you it’s time to move on from it.
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Remind her youre all in gold…she probably isnt that much beter than you if at all lol
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Thanks for your input. Honestly I don’t know what I want to hear, lol. I’m not sure what is right or wrong or anything, I’m just trying to approach it all as civilly as possible. The Leo in me wants my gfs attention but I’m so opposed to being a typical Leo that I refuse to give in to sounding selfish at any cost. But at the same time I don’t want to seem like I don’t care. Idk, I’m conflicted.
Does your gf not want to play competitive with you alone? Can’t you guys “take turns” or something?
Play without them both and rank up (:
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I try but it’s just not as fun :\ Am I being too clingy?
Not really… It’s kind of up to what your gf decides and how you feel about it.
If she decided to just play with her friend only and not you … I mean I’d be upset bc it’s a game and her tilting friend is creating space between you two over it.
Id tell your gf it’s her decision, leave it up to her since she’s the common denominator between the two of you, and you don’t wanna force something that would cause her to get upset at you
I was just giving general advice because you obviously want to be amicable, but myself? I would go deep on her the same way I do to any “gold medlas” Moira. But that is why I do not have many friends…