So you win a game and you go “oh boy that was close”; “I should have probably lost that if my luck wasn’t great”; “next game I’ll probably lose now”.
How do you fix this tilting feeling?
I am glad for the low HP victory too, try to think what could I do differently to avoid this and try to make it better next time. Then take a few minutes break to get myself together for the next match… sometimes adrenalin is working hard in me after a hard match… need to calm down a little so won’t start to make mistakes and lose with even higher chance. Try to focus on playing and not on victory or lose.
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Not just a hard match, sometimes it’s just luck. E.g. the opponent being sure to win and then you pull some kind of high roll from a yogg or whatever.
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Every individual is different. What works for me may not work for everyone.
I practice exposure.
Also, in my line of work, we have the saying, “as tolerated.”
Meaning when my resident decides they want to stop the exercise/activity, we stop.
So it’s “exposure as tolerated.”
The common rule of thumb is to take a break. But my breaks could be from 5 minutes to 5 months. Then I’m behind which increases my tilt.
Exposing myself to it and powering through it, being conscious of my feelings, and recognizing a losing/unfun match when I see one and conceding accordingly is what helped me a ton.
I’ve also found that switching mental gears helps. Set a timer for 20 minutes, read my kindle, play The Fool’s Journey, (a solitaire game with tarot cards), write in my journal, do some push ups - whatever.
When I begin to feel overwhelmed/overstimulated, I know it’s time to stop for the day.
If I am feeling especially tilted, I’ll play CoD to blow off steam.
Another thing I do is schedule. I schedule Hearthstone. This allows me to mentally and emotionally prepare to play.
Finally, l don’t have a PC. So, after a particularly hard match, I close the app and type out all my feelings in my digital journal. Let out all my frustrations. This has been a great tool in my own perspective.
I went from being angry at the player to being mad at the deck. Over time, I just stopped being mad.
It turned into,
“I want to keep playing.”
“But you’re tilted so you have to stop and deal with that.”
I haven’t had to do that in quite a long time. Which I take as a sign of progress in not only my sportsmanship as a player but also in my own mental/emotional health.
It’s strange to not be living in survival mode or on the edge of a breakdown anymore.
That is where I started and this is all how I got to where I am - to give you an idea of how extreme it was for me.
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What made you not needing to un-til (or rather not being titled in the first place (or not needing too much time to un-tilt))t?
So, you don’t get rid of tilt. You learn to manage it.
As I like to say, there is no cure for the human condition but there is management.
Instead, the goal is to minimize tilt. I am always going to experience tilt. That isn’t going to change. What changes is how I manage it.
Practicing healthy coping mechanisms on a consistent basis minimizes the feeling.
There is nothing inside of you that is bigger than you.
You can choose to be run by your emotions.
Or you can manage your emotions.
We all have that choice. It takes time, consistency and discipline. I like typing notes in my journal because it highlights what truly tilts me.
Thief Priest is one match I will not play. The moment my card is stolen/copied, concede. I do not have the patience or the energy.
I didn’t really see that until I went over my notes and saw the pattern.
Something esle to consider is what I call displacement. Where I get irrationally angry over this minor thing because there’s this major thing that is bothering me but I am refusing to deal with it. Once I realized that, I was able to do the deep work of getting to the bottom of it.
Now, in my case, we are talking 20 years worth of repressed/forgotten trauma in all type of ways. Mental/Physical/Emotional/Psychological/SA, etc etc etc. It was easier to take out my frustration on the game or to use my bad playing to feed into the negative self talk to feed into the downward spiral.
So that may be something to consider.
Finally, (and this is an incredibly personal choice but I still like to offer), tarot can give insight into the subconscious mind. If you’d like a reading, I can do that for you over Bnet or Discord.
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By realizing it’s just a game.
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LadyDeadpool and Stardust reached the same conclusion, like the low IQ - high IQ meme, and me in the middle tilting.
Yep! People that love/care about me are going to love/care about me regardless of how good or bad I am at games.
Boyfriend is way better at FPS than I am but he’s not going to leave me over it. That’s just ridiculous. In the grand scheme of things, humans just want to have fun. We’ve been competitive and playing games since the dawn of humanity.
There is nothing you can experience in gaming that our ancestors haven’t experienced before.
It’s nothing new and it’s not that serious. Unless you’re trying to make a living off of playing Hearthstone which honestly sounds miserable.
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