That’s social racism at its core. Everything you are is a slave to the machinations of the inevitability of the universe.
Someone alone can’t just choose to be you; they can TRY; they won’t find it possible as you did.
Because all racism is social, this is some arcane term of fringe ideology. But I’m not Googling this.
I differentiate it from the literal meaning of hate against race. Some leftists use it to mean any hate but I find it ugly use of language without sticking social on it or just replacing the phrase entirely at least.
Anyway point is what we are can not be controlled that easily; we can try; but it’s often very obvious trying is not enough at all.
You can’t love someone in pain without hating that which pains them. Your refusal to hate prevents you from love. And you’re coping with that your favorite way, by bringing out the racism brush and painting everything that threatens you with it. I haven’t brought up race at all; I’ve been talking about being poor and alone.
Just saying it’s systemic prejudice, to demand people to have families and whatnot, when they can’t even control if they can even do that;; they often try and often they try A LOT to do those things you demand of them; you don’t get they literally can not do it or at least they can not do it with the level of ease or difficulty you did it.
is something I haven’t done. I’ve said people can’t be happy alone. That’s not a demand at all; they can choose to be miserable.
You just did it again (you mock them because you think it’s a choice).
It’s not a choice that is readily possible to a lot of them.
At another level choice itself is an illusion.
everytime I see a call to action like this from someone with 10k+ posts, I roll my eyes.
like scrotie i love you man but seriously there’s some hypocrisy here
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Don’t you realize that Scrotie is just projecting his insecurities?
There’s a significant difference between logically forming an idea and adopting a mindset intended to impose it on others.
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I wouldn’t say just. I don’t think I’m alone in having struggled with this issue. But sure, I guess imagining people having similar issues is to some extent projection.
Yeah there’s some hypocrisy everywhere man. It’s ridiculous to expect everyone to be the polar opposite of what they complain about. Nobody likes the hypocrisy police.
And flagging the posts that call it for what it is, which is …
For sure.
This is actually wrong.
He’s (unfortunately) right about you mixing “alone” and “lonely”.
Loneliness is a dangerous state of mind, which can (and mostly IS) triggered not when you’re all alone, but when you’re surrounded by non-authentic and dishonest people. It’s proven to cause depression, raise blood pressure and even raise the chances of developing a tumor later in life. It’s a social disaster, excarbated by alcohol, which is unfortunately legal for some reason.
Being alone, in solitude, however, for some people is refreshing. That’s how they relax and recharge. That’s when and how they get ideas to write about, study or research. Solitude, if utilized properly, can be great!
I’m alone most of my time (in the last few years since I’ve became an introvert -->> before that, I was like 95% extroverted for some reason, but that’s another story), but I’m almost never lonely.
I say almost, because I’ve had periods of loneliness in my puberty and even college, but in BOTH those periods I’ve also drank excessively, which could have excarbated it. But now, I never feel lonely. I can literally feel all my family and friends chanting my name in their sleep, praying for my success or something
And I think that’s one of the keys for getting enlightened - embrace the solitude, and defeat loneliness.
As tough as it can be to read this if you’re lonely, loneliness is a state of mind, a perspective…it’s YOUR choice and YOUR interpretation of reality. In the end, it’s just a feeling, albeit a dangerous one.
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It’s the very definition of it xDD
Also, according to my research, projection is actually one of the 3 types of empathy, besides emotional (affective, emotional contagion, are just some of the names for this one) and cognitive (putting yourself in other people’s shoes), which literally decides what you can and want to do in your life or with people.
To Freud, it’s just a defense mechanism for ego. To me, it’s a much wider concept encompassing many traits and distinctions between people.
In case anyone cares xD
You hate me 'cause I’m right. Maybe I’m right about other things you hated hearing.
Textbook cognitive dissonance.
Sadly, you’re not. In fact, you are so much wrong that it isn’t even worth trying to correct. It’s like you’re using a broken translator which sometimes translates well, but most of the times completely changes the text. You don’t even understand what we’re saying, let alone reply with something right.
Also, for some reason your vocabulary spans across 2 words: “strawman” and “cognitive dissonance”, although you’re known to use both of those in wrong contexts.
Nobody else reads the words much if they don’t apply to them. They apply to you a lot I guess, if I wrote them as replies to your texts.
Gee, I think our friend can check all of these boxes in the last couple years.
This is true for many people, especially those that are comfortable in their own skin. I have a house full of these people and everyone goes to their separate spaces for the first thirty minutes to an hour after we all get back in the same house at the end of our days. It’s just a known thing that we need alone time to recharge before we can deal with others, even close family others.
I mean, while I see where you’re going with this, it’s a massive over simplification of some really complex things and how you’ve written it is more like shaming people who aren’t there yet rather than helping.
And there are others who will never be there because they don’t have the capacity.
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Not being able to be alone and happy at the same time is a sign of a problematic psychology by the way. But I think it’s also related to physical security. E.g. hard to feel that if you feel in danger; and that’s not always in your control; so it’s unfair to accuse anyone who doesn’t have it.