IRL or in games, you probably had some times where it was depressing, bad, frustrating and maybe in a dark dark place…
How did you managed and pull thru?
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Hello my friend. First off I want you to know that you are not alone. Situations can often seem both hopless and pointless. Sometimes we convince ourselves that some magical miracle will happen, and then life can be good again, or some dream about a distant future in which we can escape in. The truth is life is both ugly and pretty, right now it’s ugly.
And… that is fine. Not every moment needs to be beautiful. To feel hurt is ok, to resist it will only make it take control over you. Let the moment be, and try to accept things for what they are. Try to see the bigger picture.
I have been in a hopeless pit, so, so dark. I felt so alone and broken. I still do. But I also smile and find joy in the things I care about. We are also bound by others that care about us, and that is a good thing.
Breathe and accept the moment, it will soon be over.
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I went out and got drunk mostly i wouldn’t actually recommend this.
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With God, there is peace. 
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When i first played MK11 after over 10 years away from the franchise i lost badly to a frog…
When you lose that bad against something thats not even human its soul crushing, i had to go into a Mr Myagi training montage to make sure my eventual rematch would wash the bitter taste of defeat from my very being.
All you have to do is get up and beat that frog to a pulp, theres a frog in need of smacking in every persons life.
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Just force yourself around it instead of acting like the problem not exists.
I understand not doing that in games but for real life it is really necessary. People will usually run from this because it is usually painfull but running not only not solves anything but usually get things worse.
Also there is no problem in trying to find help but don’t expect it.
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This too shall pass, my friend!
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When the rage gets too intense it helps to turn on music to soothe the nerves. This one usually works for me after a bad half hour
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This!
A beautiful short story by Jorge Bucay, psychotherapist-gone-writer (although in original, comes from the East) about a king whose mood and mind changed with seasons (bipolar)
He would be kind and generous one day, cruel and tyrannical the other day, and soon it began to cost him - he squandered most of his gold, and his people began to conspire against him.
Then, one day, he summoned the wisest of all the sages and promised him anything he wants if he helps him with his moods. Instead of replying, sage just gave him a ring and told him to wear it at all times, and when he begins to feel overly generous or overly cruel, he should just take it off and read the inscription on the bottom side of it.
The inscription was:
“This, too, shall pass away.”
And so it did.
Anyway, point is, every emotion, every mood is just temporary, and even though it might feel terrible, and cause terrible thoughts to come on the surface, fear not. It’s just hormonal disbalance, it’ll pass.
And if you truly have reasons to feel sad or desperate, I suggest listening to music which makes you even sadder and more desperate, because it will speed up the recovery.
Hair of the dog!
You can’t bottle up emotions for too long, and you definitely can’t escape them. But you can let the cycle pass, as every cycle does eventually.
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Reaver!
I hope you’re doing well and I wish you the best my friend!
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Oh boy, I could probably write a whole trilogy on this subject. I will do my best to be as brief as possible.
Find The Source
Is there a pattern to these feelings? Seasonal depression is a very normal thing.
Is it the home life? Friends or family dragging you down?
Working a job you hate?
The list goes on, my friend but it helps to identify the source. If you cannot identify the source then it would be wise to talk to a mental health professional. As it could be something much deeper than life or circumstance.
Gratitude
Learning to name things you appreciate every day can really help to gain some perspective. It’s a free and easy mood booster.
Feel Your Feelings
We are humans. Human nature is highly expressive. Our faces, our body language are on full display all the time. So, it’s counter productive not to healthily express our feelings with the tools we are born with - tear ducts. A good cry is the most cathartic release.
Hobbies
I like to play Hearthstone, crochet, read my tarot cards, read books, solo ttrpgs, journal and enjoy the occasional show.
Doing the things we like is a lot of fun and brings on all the good feels!
One Nice Thing Every Day
Do one nice thing for yourself every single day. Does not matter what it is - it’s one nice thing you do for you and no one else.
- Flex in the mirror and tell yourself you’re too sexy for your shirt
- Make your favorite beverage
- Listen/watch/read your guilty pleasure music/book/movie/etc
You get the idea…
Step Outside of Yourself
Talk to yourself like you would your best friend. (If you don’t have one, talk to yourself like you would if you did have one)
It really helps combat the negative self talk.
Dance Your Pants Off
I cannot dance.
I cannot sing.
No one will ever see or hear me do either.
But it doesn’t stop me from belting out “Eye of the Tiger” in my car. Or getting my groove on as I clean the house. Nothing does a better job to lift my mood.
Curate Your Content!
I noticed social media was negatively impacting my mood. I stopped using most of it. Instead, I just play Hearthstone and stay away from that stuff. I can hear myself think. My judgement isn’t clouded and I feel like my mind is my own again.
It is a really nice feeling.
In Conclusion
These are methods that worked for me. I cannot promise you will have the same results. Just try them out and see what works for you. There isn’t a cure for the human condition but we sure can manage it!
One last thing…I do read tarot but I am a secular reader. My approach is more psychological than it is spiritual. I view it as a visual aid that helps map out my subconscious mind. Occasionally, I like to read for other people. If that is something that interests you, let me know. I am happy to help any way I can. 
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I want the poster above you to cosplay as Jaina in beachwear to cheer me up…
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I do not know how to respond to that.
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With Love… Always respond with 
Love…
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“The love shack is a little place where we can get together…”
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THe strongest storm blows over and the sun comes back out. Sometimes all we can do is hunker down in the basement or shelter and wait for it to blow over. Just know that it will pass no matter how much the storm rages right now.
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i snuggle with my cat and cry
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I turn on the lights.
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"You can walk through someone’s life and find out if they are reasonably embedded in a hierarchy of social institutions. If they are not — no intimate partner, no family, no children, no friends, no job, no career, no educational pathway, no engagement in civic responsibility, no church attendance, no spiritual life, no routine — then they are not depressed; they just have a horrible life, multidimensionally. It is no wonder that they would think they are depressed; there is nothing in their life that is working. But that is not a exactly a diagnosis at the level of the individual; it is a diagnosis of the relationship between the individual and the structure containing social institutions."
— Lobster Daddy, PhD
Gamers like to disconnect. But don’t let yourself disconnect too hard.
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