Either because you were playing and wouldn’t stop for your marriage, or because you play with your spouse and you drifted apart somehow?
Or maybe because, you or your S.O. were using WoW to escape your marital troubles until it all boiled over?
I’ve even heard of couples who play together, where one of them will start talking to someone else in-game and end up sexting them till they got caught.
What do you think? Does WoW kill relationships, or was the relationship weak to begin with?
I’m not married but I would neither divorce nor break up over WoW.
The thing is that it wouldn’t ever really be WoW that is the problem. Spending too much time playing games, or having bad communication, or whatever else isn’t really WoW causing the problems.
WoW just happens to be part of it, but isn’t the reason for the problem and eventual break up/divorce.
There is no way I would ever divorce or leave my wife and children over a video game. I could live my life without ever touching a game. While I could “live” without my family I certainly wouldnt want to. They are long and far the most important thing to me in my life. What a silly question.
I once told a girl that I’d never consider marrying a girl who hasn’t beaten Ocarina of Time at least once because she couldn’t possibly understand me as a gamer. She thought I was kidding… Then again she’s the one who started talking about marriage barely 6 months into the relationship, and we where both in our early 20s at the time so it was a bit of a sarcastic statement more meant to buy me time to figure out if she was actually serious or not in bringing up the subject that early (since I knew she hated my gaming hobby already).
Anyway long story short, she was super serious, and got really mad about the “requirement” so during the ensuing fight I kind of dug in on the issue and regret absolutely nothing about how it turned out. We broke up ~2 weeks later and she got pregnant and married about 7 months after that. I consider that a bullet dodged better than anything Neo accomplished in The Matrix.
I also now consider it to be an actual thing to vet women on the gaming thing, though not necessarily via Zelda 64. Most recently I’ve had success taking them paintballing which kind of works as an IRL version of a video game. That being said, even among the ones that where gamers, or at least accepting towards gaming… Zero of them ever liked WoW.
No I would not. But at the same time, if my SO suddenly began hassling me about the fact that I like to play games, I’d be very upset. This is me, this is how I’ve been for years, I don’t neglect other aspects of our life together-- and my SO games as well. It would be a real shock to have this pulled on me and I think it would be indicative of a larger issue.
I think it is extremely important for couples to understand exactly what they’re getting into before they make any kind of long-term commitment. If you (general you) feel strongly about gaming as a hobby, and you’re dating someone who doesn’t understand that, then it’s time for both of you to make tough choices. If there can be no compromise then it might be time to walk, IMO. This is true over more than just gaming, but gaming can be a sticking point because so many people are still stuck in the mindset that it’s not a real hobby, or something that only children are supposed to do.
Funny story - I told my wife I was going to marry her a week after meeting her (She was 19 at the time, I was 22) I’m 34 now, she’s 31 and we’ve been together since, married in 2012.
Yeah my wife was my gf all through high school, we broke up for like a year and then got married.
The drawback to those sorts of sweetheart marriages is that you’re basically guaranteed to change throughout early adulthood, we started dating 15 years ago and we’re just not alike at all unfortunately, although I’m sure lots of couples meet in the middle somewhere or actually get closer over time.
Absolutely not. My wife-to-be is not a video gamer at all. My gaming habits have declined significantly since meeting and falling in love with her and that’s absolutely not because of anything she’s said or done; it just happened of its own accord when we moved in together. I’m totally fine with that. I have more interesting things occupying most of my time and attention now.
We have some of those issues, I wish she was more of a “geek” or had a better understanding of “alone time” but with multiple kids its hard sometimes.
I’m trying to make it so that once the baby is born and we’re all settled back down a bit I take her out at least once every 2 weeks for a date night, both because I want to make a case for 1 night a week of WoW when it launches, and because I’ve worked so much the last couple of years that she definitely deserves the quality time.
You met her 12 years ago, semi-proposed to her within a week, and married her 6 years later? LOL that’s a good one!
To the OP: more than half of all marriages fail for some reason other than death, so if your marriage can survive WoW your marriage is better than the average marriage. I don’t think WoW is a cause of bad relationships any more than anything else is, but its escapism could make bad marriages last longer than they perhaps should last, where the healthier thing to do is to split up and find someone who makes you both better people.
haha - way back in vanilla i WOW’d with a couple.
for some reason the guys girlfriend named her character really close to my RL name.
but then she started banging other guys that werent from wow and then they broke up because she was caught.
relationships in a world filled with technology are boring.
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Even if we want to play different games it’s still together in a sense, so we’re quite happy!![:two_hearts:](https://d38bqls1q93fod.cloudfront.net/en/wow/images/emoji/twitter/two_hearts.png?v=6" ":two_hearts:")