What would you have done?

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So as the title states, I’m curious what the rest of you would have done.

I love tanking and always have since tanking my first dungeon in BC. My main is a 403 blood DK and after my guilds raid tonight I decided, against better judgement, to go pug a 10. I found a 10 UR just missing a tank and off we went… o whispered the healer and told him that I know how rough grievous can be - especially with sanguine and I’d be sure to watch his mana.

First pull, the maggot in the right, someone pulls the ticks on the left… happens every time… no big deal but this dps warrior feels the need to start with “oh, this kind of group”… clear down the first ramp without much problem and stop before the first boss to let the healer top us all off. Our friend the warrior took this opportunity to spew a “what are you all new?!” And then proceeds to pull the boss. We get through it and proceed through the dungeon with nearly every pull garnering some comment from the warrior. “Tank… TANK? Why so slow?” “Mage… have you ever even been here?”…

He was constantly pulling ahead of me, with no regard for the healer. Twice I tried to time the reaping but this was too slow for him… just a general jerk… My personal favorite is when he said, “just follow me” after the third boss and proceeded to face pull the whole pack trying the skip after the third boss. I’d be lying if I said I didn’t think about just letting him die (but that goes against all my tanking instincts lol)

We get through the dungeon, last boss dies with 2:14 to spare and I get a pair of 400 pants from the chest. I thank the group and leave and that’s when our buddy whispers, “Yo let me get those pants”… Now my pants are 410 with a socket, I certainly don’t need them and that’s where the question lies. I don’t answer him immediately so he starts spamming me… “Hello? Hello… Yo you don’t need those pants… they’re a 25ilvl upgrade… Stop ignoring me give me the pants” and he starts inviting me to a group.

I had had enough, I replied with “you want a favor after you talk crap the entire run all while facepulling mobs and paying no mind to the healers mana? Jeez, you didn’t even say please” he replied with “whatever, you don’t need them”…

And that’s when I did maybe the most vendictive thing I’ve ever done in all these years of wow… I scrapped them and replied “No, I don’t. that’s why I scrapped them” and linked the ore to him and said only “Be nicer” and logged off.

Two wrongs don’t make a right, and I’m very anti-toxicity. I actually feel a little badly about it now an hour later, but it sure felt justified at the time. He coulda just said please though…

Any way, long story… would you have just given him the damn pants? Was it really that bad form on my part? Should we try and police toxicity or will it just make people more toxic?

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I’d have done the same thing. Nine times out of 10 I’ll happily give people what I don’t need, but players who are jerks? Nope. Why reward bad behaviour?

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Nah I would have done the same. If you’re going to be rude the whole time or can’t ask nicely then no pants for you. No need to feel guilty about it! :slight_smile:

May his pants-less legs burn in the scorching sun. May he walk through a field of poison ivy in his undergarments. Let all hot drinks spill in his unprotected lap. He is unworthy!

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Hah. This is gold. You did the right thing man.

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i’m sorry, I just can’t deal with long posts that require a lot of me to read. i’m just a stupid fat bastard and I should diet and sleep and do good things so I can pay attention to these things that matter.

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It’s a good read, invest 5 minutes and stop being lazy :slight_smile:

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OK, I read it. I guess I might have done the same thing, except I would probably have just put him on ignore instead of linking him scrap of it. I dunno.

It’s your right to do what you want with the items that drop for you, I think, and he was not being nice during the dungeon or after. You’d have to be a saint to want to give a mean person a gift.

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Your only mistake was engaging him at all. Next time, just scrap the item, and block the player. It’ll be a far shorter story, and you won’t come off as your own form of immature.

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You should have kicked him from the group. You didn’t even though you were obligated to do so.

Now you’re asking if you did the right thing by not giving him your reward.

You even go further to say that you were being vindictive.

No, you weren’t. You taught him a lesson. Literally. Now it’s up to him as to what he wants to learn from that but you did fulfill that part of your obligation by withholding the reward from him.

As it is, I’m not sure if I believe this story but it was entertaining so well done with this post.

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I would have told him to go get some cheese and crackers to go with his whine.

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You are my hero!!

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Thanks team… was really just having a bout of conscience.

As for not believing the story, I mean, you’re free to believe what you like but I can assure you that If I was going to make my first forum post in years at 2am on a random Sunday a BS post, I’d have made up a hell of a lot better story than me feeling bad about scrapping some pants on a jerk in a pug… lol. I also woulda been saving the day in an +18 not a 10. =}

I suppose the toxicity has always existed in the community, I just have gotten worse at ignoring it.

Thx all…

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Two wrongs don’t make a right, but some people need to be taught a lesson. Frankly, the world is a better place when people decide not to be doormats and stand up to this kind of behavior. If more people did perhaps these sorts of people wouldn’t be convinced that it’s okay. Good on you.

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I would call your response to bad behavior on this schmuck’s part an opportunity to learn, if he isn’t smart enough to grasp that, then shame on him.

If you had given him the pants you would have reenforced his bad behavior.

Good for you for scraping them.

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I know that feel OP but you can’t reward toxic behavior or people will think acting like that is fine. If nothing else this will serve as a lesson for that warrior.

I think you did the right thing and I would’ve done the same.

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You were a lot nicer than I would have been. Thats for sure.

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Ive done this before and its not really recomended butt
Invite that annoying person to a group.
teliport to a obscure location ( i have my garrison hearthstone always avalible but jainas locket is best for a old dalaran portal )
Tell that person your hearth is on CD and you dont know how to get to him.
Wait for him to come to you .
Disenchant it right infront of them.

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You are right, two wrong don’t make a right.
But ignoring asholes and giving into thier demands is far worse for the community. So you did the right thing imo.

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This. I was healing a run the other day and one of the dps was being a total jerk and I did my very best not to heal him. Was it petty of me? Probably (and not very effective anyhow since was Monk and y’know lots of group heals) but sometimes just doing nothing about twerps feels even worse.

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You’re a kind person.

I 100% would open a trade window, slot the item, and make dinner – leaving the trade window open.

Bad attitudes are temporary. Toxicity develops slowly. When someone is outright toxic, I feel like I have a moral obligation to be toxic back. Golden Rule… it’s a good idea.

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