If you’re in a dungeon or raid and someone gets a gear drop you can use/need, how do you go about asking for it?
What’s generally considered “proper”?
I had a group earlier where a monk was begging for a cloth helmet I got on my priest. Sent me 6 messages and opened a trade window all within 15 seconds of me looting it and before I could even respond.
I wasn’t going to trade it as it was an upgrade, and because he was a monk asking for cloth gear. But even with all that aside, the super obnoxious message spam and begging and opening a trade window just made me not want to trade at all. It was just so “in your face”
I don’t know, I’ve been handing out my stuff I get to people that ask because I haven’t needed it. People have been just asking nicely or doing one of those general, “if anyone doesn’t need anything” type of deals.
If someone did what you are describing though, I would just sit there with the trade window open and walk off to go do something else lol.
I politely ask in party chat if anyone needs it. Usually, I’ve already inspected their gear to check for myself, so I won’t ask if it’s either their BIS or has a higher item level than what they have equipped. If I get something I don’t need and can trade, I just link it in party chat and say, ‘Does anyone need this?’ If multiple people respond, I have them /roll.
Transmog restrictions are lifted, so I can’t blame anyone for trying, transmog is forever; transmog is endgame. But they definitely could have been calmer and more patient. Bad impression!
People generally ask once if the person who got it needs it. Either the person responds with a yes or no, or if they don’t respond at all just assume that they don’t want to give it away. If multiple are interested, typically just ask for a /roll.
Anything else is obnoxious and you can decide to put them on ignore if you want.
When I enter a M+ I aim for specific pieces. If I get an item I don’t need I immediately put it in chat asking who wants it. If someone gets an item I need I’ll usually ask if they need it. If they don’t, usually they trade it. If they do, I congratulate them. As for raid, I usually pass on pieces I don’t need. Proper etiquette (imo) is a polite message I’m whisper asking if they need it. If they don’t answer or say yes, don’t push the issue.
I don’t think there’s any proper etiquette. Someone can say no for any reason, including being spammed. Spamming for it can also be reported for spam, if it’s incessant enough.
But, yeah. Just ask and it’s a yes or no question.
I go by the simple rule if there are dice, and I roll them and win, I keep it unless it’s a friend. If I need it and it’s actually an upgrade, I’m going to take it. However, if I know it’s below my gear level and someone else can use it, and it actually fits their spec Then I will give it to them. But there’s no way I’m handing a monk cloth gear. I haven’t seen a holy paladin wear cloth gear and more than a decade because it was somehow better than the plate gear that automatically adjusted to their stats.
I swear that there must be an addon or something with how quick those guys start asking and opening windows and replying with “?”. As if they don’t understand. It is FAST and they know already that you don’t need it or it’s a sidegrade or maybe it’s worth the 23g to vendor, you did win it. Those guys are super irritating. I’m talking about the LFR, I’d guess dungeons are more cordial.
If the items drops for you, you can do with anything you like. Other people are not entitled to your drops, but it’s nice to trade them if you don’t need it. When it drops for someone else, I just ask if they need it, and if they don’t and wish to trade I just thank them. For those that act like the Monk you mentioned, just tell them to F off and go about your day.
Just ask if they need whatever item that was dropped. A couple nights ago I did a dungeon and at the end of it a chest piece dropped for me and someone said “Druid can you give the chest to hunter?”…I was a little taken aback by how blunt that was. Usually someone would say something like “Druid do you need?l
Just ask (whisper) them…the worst they can say is no.
I’ve had plenty of people ask me, and I give it to them w/o question. Same goes with raids esp. LFR.
Most of the time, if I am doing a dungeon for a quest, I just announce in the group that if anyone needs or wants anything I get, I’ll give it to them.
I never ask, myself, but if asked politely - “Hey, do you really need that [ITEM]?”, I’ll give the item up if needed.
If they don’t do something quite like that, ignore and move on, like that monk.
