Maybe it’s just me, but I’ve tried “big crowd” RP events, before. I’ve tried getting to know people, but they tend to stick with their own clique. I often find, it’s better to have smaller RP sessions. I tend to find these simply through RPing, when I’m questing, traveling or farming. I’ve, also, been consistent with my story. Like these “cliques”, I tend to stick with my own RP friends and find others as I go along.