Returning Player Struggles to find Quality Raids

I last played WoW in mop and have played WoW on and off since 2005. The new raid finder system has potential. Though since returning about a month ago, I’ve noticed an increased difficulty to be accepted to raids. This is not an ilvl thing as my ilvl is within the recommended range for the content. My thoughts are that one can only take so many declines before it starts to become a way to shun and belittle players. The amount of players being overly picky for raids has grown increasingly with the new developments, this potentially creates a funneling system of negativity being directed from player to player. A positive way to view all of these new changes is to think about what WoW was like before players and guilds could utilize these new methods of evoking people to think discouraging thoughts about themselves.