Ugh psych wards suck. Been to one for a suicide watch.
They can be helpful but they suuuuuuuuck
I mostly had bad experiences. As I said my other side is fiercely anti authoritarian and being forced to take pills doesn’t go down so well.
On the other hand the first act of human kindness I ever received from someone was a nurse who made me a cake at home and brought it in on my 16th birthday. Its one of only three times I can every remember crying it touched me so deeply.
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You would have turned me down because i was open about my mental health, that’s on you. Also in the guilds application, it asked for me to talk about myself, so i did. Would you turn someone down for having a broken leg? no, it’s the same concept. I am glad you would have turned me down, I wouldn’t want to associate with someone with your views on the world.
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No, I won’t bring drama, how will i bring drama, do tell.
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You feel the need to tell everyone your problems using them as an excuse for whatever you do, like you are here. No. Thanks.
Bye.
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I get ya. It’s just I also have chronic pain so even if I hate needing medicine, it’s brutal to go thru the pain unmedicated.
I’m mostly a giant cry baby but I’m kinda proud of it. When I feel something moving, it’s very strong and that part of bpd is nice. The positive emotions can be almost overwhelming but I have friends online to help bring me down if I’m a little too hyper.
That’s your perception of what I’m doing here, I have nothing to do with your thoughts, buddy. Ending stigma is my only intention, like the issues you’re having right now, I want to bring understanding to people like you. Ironically you’re the one stirring up drama right now.
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@OP
Sucks that you had and are having this experience. I’ve also dealt with anxiety throughout my adult life (although nothing approaching the severity of schizophrenia, obviously) so I kind of know where you’re coming from.
That said… this is WoW. If you form an M+ pug, it’s a fair bet there will be at least one toxic group member. There are weird and annoying people in almost every guild. The community is notorious for attracting unpleasant and socially awkward people, so I don’t blame guild recruiters at all for looking for red flags. I mean, if that even is why they declined you; it’s just as likely they simply already have plenty of DHs.
To be honest, I think you pass for completely normal in this thread. If the topic were something else I would never have guessed you suffered from schizophrenia. Owning it and being upfront with it is fine, but I don’t think you necessarily need to unless it actually becomes some kind of issue in-game. Something you should probably disclose to a prospective roommate? Sure. But there’s no need to handicap your guild applications with oversharing, especially if they don’t specifically ask in the application process about mental illness. If I were you, I’d just write something like, “I’m kind of shy and might not be able to join very guild event, but I like M+ and am looking for a friendly guild to hang out with.” Even if you’re too anxious to play on a given day, or have to miss an M+ night you signed up for due to some other mental health issue, that’s okay. My guild is very active, and it’s still an extremely rare night when all the officers or OGs are actually online together at the same time. No one ever demands to know why someone else wasn’t around. 
Life happens!
Good luck in your WoW endeavors and all others!
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i also have to add that many of us that have either been guild leaders, or higher ranking officers in various games have dealt with people that have issues.
i specifically remember the huge mistake i made appointing a woman as temporary guild leader while i had to take a break from gaming for about 4 months.
i came back to her, her suckup internet boyfriend, younger brother, and a couple of his friends being the only officers. and a bunch of new people with only 1 or 2 old members left. when i asked what happened they gave me flak as if it were my fault, i started getting msgs from all the old friends and guildmates.
long story short she literally destroyed the guild because half of her convos on our voip and in game were “oh woes me and my vertigo” and her internet boyfriend ran everything, and he was the kind of person you wanted to punch in the mouth just because he was there. i had removed him from the guild twice prior.
now not all people with problems like that are bad to have along, but many are just too much to deal with in various ways. they either cause drama, want special treatment, or are unreliable.
keep looking, youl find where you fit in i spose
Schizophrenia is a term that psychiatrists use to label us as other. When in reality our reality has competelt crumbled and we entered the Dark Night. Society cannot have people in the Dark Night because those people are dangerous. But the Dark Night is required for human evolution. Society cannot have the masses become evolved, or they will see the amount of oppression occurring and a revolution will happen. The powers that be cannot have this.
is that a quote from a tv show or movie or something? because it looks like an attempt to sound deep and meaningful but in a forum post it sort of comes across as silly and overbearingly “better than thou” and not exactly intelligent
i have an uncle and a friend with schizophrenia… no, its not that society cant have people like that. it’s that if they are not medicated and going to therapy they are hard to deal with…then tend to try to self medicate with booze and drugs and make things worse
even though you love them with every bit of your heart, you sigh long and hard every time you have to talk to them. and hope they have something they have to get doing so they go away. but then when they are gone, you are left sitting there thinking “maybe i should call or go over there, im worried about them”… and when you have a lot going on in your life its not fair to you to have all of their problems thrown on you every single time you see them because they are to stubborn to take the help offered by professionals
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You know what?
Everyone has problems, If I were to do a rundown of what I’ve dealt with in my life it brings most people to tears, I’m just the tip of the iceberg my family has a good portion of stock in crazy dysfunctional people.
The difference is I don’t go broadcasting it, because I’m not that special everyone has issues in their life, everyone has problems. I’m smart enough to realize the world does not revolve around me and my issues.
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Agreed with this right here. I’m not ashamed I’m seeking treatment but it’s no one’s business but mine and my families.
All the OP had to state was I can’t do raids as I’m unable to sit for that long. It’s honest and removes that issue.
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I’m starting to get on board with this logic.
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Killing acolytes of Nzoth is bigotry against people with mental health challenges.
No. Guilds can invite or decline whoever they want to. This doesn’t warrant a forum post. There was no issue until you made it one and made it public.
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its a free world, nothing needs to be warranted. Your opinion is recognized though, the title is mental health and stigma though, the mentioning of this guild was just a tangent.
It took up a large amount of the post, and ended the post with a question specifically about it. The post was more about why you didn’t get accepted than mental health.
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i felt it was a great example of why the stigma needs to be challenged. But you do have a point, I did write a lot about it, I should have waited to cool down before writing this, I was upset.
I would suggest that introducing oneself to anyone or any group by highlighting a difficulty or illness or ANY negative bit of information can often result in rejection.
I mean, we all have stuff. And some are more forthcoming about our stuff than others. But it’s considered a social faux pas to barely have chatted with someone and to then launch into what might be perceived as a negative, right? It’s like going on a first date and talking about your last relationship’s bad break-up.
If someone already knows you and all the stuff that is good about you, and then you talk about a mental illness or other difficulty, they know enough and CARE enough to incorporate that into the whole picture they have of you. But if you talk about such things before someone even knows or cares? It is likely that a person will see you as too much trouble.
Is that right or fair? No. But ask any person over 60 who has applied for a job about being rejected based on ONE attribute and you’ll get stories. Or ask a Black man who gets pulled over for speeding about being judged based on one attribute. Or a person in a wheelchair who gets spoken to s-l-o-w-l-y and loudly. This crap happens all the time.
So you don’t disclose the stuff you might get judged on until you are known and seen, yeah?
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