Honestly, I’d have turned you down too, if your guild app was anything like the post here, because it just seems like the potential for drama is high.
this.
but, don’t let it bother you that a group turned you down. not every group is going to be a fit for every person - and that’s ok. Keep looking, you will find someone, but maybe don’t open with the super personal information that isn’t really any of their business.
When I first started playing the game my first friend invited me to her guild they kicked me cus I have high functioning autism. Boy it hurt me. I almost considered quitting luckily I met my best friend around the same time and she kept me going in the game
Many mental illnesses are treatable. If you had specified that you were being treated for your affliction I would have accepted you as the guild I’m in on my main is full of people with things like PTSD and depression/anxiety.
Spending a thousand dollars on transfers makes me worry about potential lack of treatment.
First, I want to say I’m blown away at your sheer courage for that post! Seriously! Your bravery is epic! /salute
I’ve been diagnosed with mild PTSD (not remotely close to schizophrenia!!!), and I cannot fathom to begin to understand the complexity of what you’re dealing with.
I seriously respect you for being open and up front with your mental health issues. Owning it is the key to not letting it own you. People that don’t want to know/understand/can’t be bothered to get educated, aren’t people you need in your life anyway, so being up front with it, is the best screening process for YOU. Brava!
Second: Question: Are you specifically looking for a raiding guild? Also, anything in addition that you’re looking for in a guild, aside from the obvious being not a bunch of dbags? That way, hopefully a good fitting guild with nice people can find you.
I’d suggest my guild, but it’s not very populated with active members other than me, and occasionally a few friends new to the game who are on lockdown, and I don’t think we’re connected with Dalaran. We’re also on Pacific Time.
I wish you all the luck in the world, and if you’re ever in the mood for a very quiet guild, you’re always welcome. Seriously.
You are a wonderful person! Thank you i needed this, I wasn’t expecting everyone to be so ignorant and judge… one even suggested i wasn’t medicated!? My mental illness is difficult for me. This is why I am open about it, because its an every day struggle, and all I want is support, now what most of these replies are doing making me feel like i should be locked away in a room and forgotten about.
Keep it to myself? Imagine you had a sprained ankle and were expected to play basketball, and you hat to keep it to yourself. It’s not advisable… telling others your handicap is not attention seeking, nor is it unnecessary, it’s just context to that persons situation. You would never judge someone for having a sprained ankle would you? That’s the level of understanding I am after… I also want to end the stigma that schizophrenia has which is MASSIVE not only for myself, but also for anyone else with mental health struggles related to this.
I have two questions: did they ask about mental health status on their app? If not, why would you divulge that? Speaking for myself, that’s not information I would give strangers on the internet.
Yeah, I’d rather not talk about my mental health status to anyone but family, friends, and my therapist. It’s not anyone else’s business. That’s why there’s laws protecting people from having to tell potential future employers, if you are not so inclined.
I have been really starting to suffer from my anxiety and depression lately especially with the isolation and I want you to know your not alone. I may never meet you and we don’t suffer from the same “issues” so to say but in this moment I want you to know you aren’t alone, I know I need to hear it sometimes. sorry if what I’m saying sounds silly.
The irony here is that high functioning autism (formerly known as Asperger’s), usually comes with high intelligence. Not sure why they’d kick you for that. If you can do well in a raid, who cares?
It sounds like you might have BPD. Though I’m not a psychologist so please don’t take that as a diagnosis.
One of its major characteristics is the fear of abandonment which ironically leads you to abandon everyone so as to not get hurt.
I suffer from this myself and it can be down right crippling at times expecially if paired with an intense manic or depressive state. The only thing I’ve found that helped me was picking up a DBT workbook and going through it several times. It helped me to look at every possible reason that a person may display a behavior instead of instantly coming to the conclusion that its because of me or something I’ve done.
Even if you have a different personality disorder I would suggest giving it a go.
Edit: I some how missed the schizophrenia on the first read. Do you take medication? If you do you may want to see if you can have your dosage adjusted or try alternatives.
If you’ve stopped taking your medication please start up again. I understand that it can be easy to think that you’re all better but it can take up to a month for the medications to start working properly again which is a month that your in misery.
I would still suggest giving the above books a go though.
The GM doesn’t owe you anything. It’d be nice for some type of discussion, of course, but you’re on WoW and you’re applying to engage in content where most of the people are a little awkward anyway.
The way you wrote your post up then talked about the guild GM sounds like you’re trying to accuse him of something, and that doesn’t really seem fair and seems a little disingenuous.
DBT is very expensive plus insurance componies consider BPD to be incurable so they refuse to cover it.
I’ve been declined by every therapist within a 2 hour drive of were I live (and to be honest I’d been bounced around a lot since I was 9 with every therapist refusing to treat me after about 3 months, although the longest was 1 1/2 years.) So it would be a 4 hour ride 4 times a week (2 one on one sessions and two group sessions) at about $450/hr.
To be honest I’m in a pretty good spot in life though. I work with only two other people and my supervisor understands my issues and helps me get through my day. My wife is supportive and when she senses something happening she forces me to talk about it and try to see things from different perspectives. Outside of work I don’t leave the house and haven’t for almost a decade so I don’t have to worry about anything out there.
Yeah, It’s generally a good rule to not give out any personal information on the internet.
It just makes you an easy target for trolls, and ostracizes you from other players.
I was under the impression most mental illnesses are incurable, simply treatable with therapy and/or medication, so that’s a really odd, borderline terrible stance for an insurance company to take. That’s also some expensive therapy…and a long drive. I don’t face any of those obstacles, yet if I did, I would probably do the same as you have.
Yeah BPD has one hell of a stigma attached to it. And in a way its earned it although it sucks for those of us suffering from it.
Medications have no impact (neither lithium or SSRI seem to help, and for many myself included can lead to suicidal impulses) and normal CBT and psychoanalysis have little to no impact. DBT was design specifically for it though.
If your interested in abnormal psychology here is a short video describing BPD. Although it doesn’t explain anything more then whats in the DSMV, he has tons of other videos about it and nearly every other mental illness.
Mood. I was wrongfully diagnosed with ADHD in the past. The medicine made me damn near a skeleton to the point where my Mom took me off the meds and I had to go on a diet meant for aids patients to help gain weight. ( a whole lotta peanut butter mostly )
I did make a dnd character with bpd to kinda help act as “therapy” since I can’t afford seeing an actual therapist.
/sigh
It sucks just having that “what the heck even am I?” feeling with your identity. Picking and wearing traits from other people in a desperate struggle to have SOMETHING