Hey Elluin, I read ur “giant wall of text” lol and look I get what your trying to say. me and my small group were in the same boat and finally we gave up and said lets just start our own guild and enforce the values you yourself mentioned above.
Here is the link to my sales pitch, we are low on progression (2/10 N), and still on under +7 keys but to be fair we are only 2 weeks old
[[A] <Chemically Balanced> Arathor/Drenden Recruiting]
It really sounds like you and your husband, and brother, would be happy with our team. Send me a DM and we can discuss it more, I have no issues if you wanted to bring an alt in for a week or so just to get a feel for us either.
Cheers