I think they do. It’s just someone that agrees with and enjoys you-know-who’s trolling.
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Good morning everyone. Hope things are going well.
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Eh can’t complain. Kinda wish I could keep sleeping but I got a time limit on “Okay you can now sleep” and then its on a big cooldown until I can comfortably sleep again. Pain and all that.
This is kinda why I’m always tired lol
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That sucks. I wish I could sleep most of the time… only come out at night. I was built for either living in a deep cave or being nocturnal.
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Yeah only time I get to sleep more is shark week just because I guess the change in hormones just make me sleep A LOT which is nice
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A good time to try to sleep through by all accounts.
I had a funny night yesterday. I was at a family party and one of my mom’s cousins decided to chat me up about LGBT stuff. He was talking about how he really wants a rich husband, lmao. And he encouraged me a lot to go to gay bars but I’m not sure if that’s my thing, lol. I think this was the first time I talked to someone about LGBT stuff irl that’s not my sister. It was fun 
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you can use a lgbt locator aps, then get coffee? its not dangerous where u live i hope… I dislike alcohol & not into bars of any type.
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I’d have to research some apps and also try to get a little better at socializing 
I think I would like to try dating/meeting more people because talking to this dude has actually given me a bit more confidence. He said he wants to go to my wedding, lmao.
Happy Monday folks
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eugh
pain keeping me awake
cmon body i just want sleep. i had like no rem sleep last time i slept so im burnt to cinders
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/gentle healing hug
/rocks you to sleep
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Gonna start posting again, albeit much less commonly, at least for now. I refuse to let the people who did what they did win.
And to be honest, browsing the forums in my idle time is apparently one of the things keeping me sane, because these past 2 weeks have been horrible. I can’t find a replacement that works for me. -.-
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I have this gay friend I’ve known since we were kids.
Really he was sort of a friend of the family. He even stayed with us a bit many years ago. We didn’t keep in touch through the years but when I chanced to see him earlier this year at a mutual friend’s house, I gave him a hug. He sent me a fb friends request later, which of course I accepted. My mom’s on his friends list too.
He posts a lot of deeper type memes and meaningful quotes, etc… and a lot of what he has posted indicates he deals with a lot of personal issues with anger and depression, etc.
I’ve made a plethora of positive comments to him to show support and caring, and I know my mom has too, but… he mostly just ignores everything. I once managed to get him to talk to me just a little bit in a message, but as soon as he opened up a bit, he clamped himself back down.
I’ve told my mom that he seems stand offish now, doesn’t really connect, etc., and she says now that she just thinks he’s weird. Not weird because he’s gay, but just weird in general.
I’ve wondered about possible reasons he doesn’t seem to connect now. I mean, this is someone who used to frequently stay overnight in our home when I was growing up. We ate dinner together, watched movies together, and I thought we were friends.
Maybe the years changed things though.
I have the impression from some of his posts that maybe he had a falling out with his special guy and went through a really traumatic time psychologically. He has some health issues too I think.
Meh… I don’t know where I’m going with this. Just thinking outloud and wishing I could somehow have helped a friend but feeling I couldn’t, or maybe my help just wasn’t wanted.
I think I’ll send him a card soon and just tell him to hang in there.
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Tbh same. These past 2 months have been awful and like I know problems can be managed, but at some point it’s just the mental exhaustion of can I have a good month for once…
I don’t know enough to say things with any certainty, but I can share from my own experience that I close down and shut people out when I feel like I can’t trust them to keep things between us.
It’s not a sort of arrogant “I know better than they do,” it’s just from what I’ve observed with how they interact with others that I don’t feel safe with them. There could also be elements of shame or guilt at work. Or maybe a sense of not wanting to bother other people with his problems. Could be anything really.
Active listening helps a lot though. So no matter what the situation is, I think just showing up, not judging their choices and life circumstances will improve your relationship with him. But if he really doesn’t want to talk, then just enjoying activities together is good enough. Maybe he doesn’t say it but I’m sure he’d appreciate such things.
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The whole of society has gotten far too focused on things we use to say we shouldn’t judge others on…tbh I feel exactly like your friend with depression, lack of desire to communicate with friends and family and mainly posting quotes or toe YouTube songs that hold how I feel in the moment.
People have become divided even in their smaller groups, the last few years families and friends have become so polarized and politicized that it’s strained or broken ties. Maybe in some way he fears saying something that would risk further loss of maybe you after reconnecting.
It’s become nearly impossible to share full views and thoughts these days as it always seems to anger others and thus society is in a quagmire of self isolation and muting of ideals. So people only start to become shallow and vapid by placing their whole identity into their gender or preferences rather then become a deeper individual.
It’s actually very depressing if you think about it…we are so connected now yet more isolated then ever.
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He probably has been treated badly by people and has trauma. He probably shies away from people and has a defensive wall up for his own safety.
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Just stopping by to say yo.
Hopefully people haven’t been trolling this place up.
I’m scared to scroll up.
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It’s been chill.
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yo.
all good in the neighborhood!
as you should be