Ive recently started tanking and had a few times in pugs with people that refuse to listen to the detriment of the group / wipes or abusing me for the issues they’re causing .
Had one group recently i walked out on because we had 70s in BIS gear pulling 1600 dps while I’m a leveling warrior and dotting everything in sight up ( Other than skull and X ) making it impossible to hold threat and even dpsing the second the charge connects .
I told them what was happening and they wanted to " zerg it " along with other abuse like putting things in all caps and demanding things .
On a bad pull to said aggro issues above when they ran away from me making me run to get the mob , i had asked them why they ran from the tank to which they replied " What tank " and implied Im not a tank
I left the group saying im not putting up with this and the fallout / general response from my guild since it was related to one guildy who invited me was ( paraphrasing ) " well you kind of knew that was what it was like so you shouldn’t be annoyed / upset " .
Am i really terrible for leaving ? or have i been gaslit into thinking this is my issue for one reason or another .
Would really like to hear from other tanks your experience and if i was in the wrong for calling them toxic and leaving ?
I don’t tank often, but when I do, I let the group know. More often than not, they’re helpful. Sometimes I get exactly what you’re writing about, though. The cool thing about normal dungeons is that you can usually find a new group fairly fast.
Was this a guild group or only 1 guildy?
Was this ome level 70, ot were they all 70 and you were the only one not?
Its pretty standard that you would not be able to hold threat vs a level 70 if you were 66. But I would assume the other dps knew that situation and didnt care.
Whether or not leaving should be toxic is hard for others to tell you, if you were frustrated to the point of not having fun, then its probably correct to leave. However if this is a guild you might have just sent the guild a message.
Its good to have a set standard and to not let people push you past that.
One guildy who invited me to their friends group and there was two seventies and maybe a 69.
Because of how it went down and some messages in guild chat the GM got involved .
The only person less than level 69 was me .
It was at the level i used taunt , heroic strike and a devastate before a mob would pay attention to me at some points.
I leveled as a prot pally and I left a few groups because of that stuff. That crappy attitude they have doesnt deserve your time. Screw em, let em do the rest of the dungeon without a tank since they dont think they need one anyways
You really can’t tank for 70s as a level 66 and expect to hold aggro. You also can’t expect a level 66 tank to hold aggro when you’re a level 70 going ham. No reason for them to be rude to you about it.
You did nothing wrong. You felt like you were being disrespected and felt your time was being wasted, so you left. It doesn’t matter if it was a guildie, if they did you wrong that doesn’t make it right.
I was old hillsbrad at level 66 so i was in the right ballpark .
Just had no idea what level ranges i was walking into until i got summoned .
Somtimes if the DPS is high enough no amount of specs or talents can really make an impact. especially when the dps is off marked mobs
No, you’re not terrible for leaving. Any hint of toxicity in party chat is an instant deal breaker. It doesn’t matter if I’m on the last boss. Those guys will figure it out after they’ve been quit on enough times.
I outlined why what they said was toxic and left , the reason why GM got involved was because it was in regards to a guildy and is a nice guy .
I was in the guild chat saying how much they were being asshats .
I never swore or was vulgar to anyone in the dungeon unless calling someone toxic is considered not polite
Whenever I tank, if the DPS are constantly a problem and refuse to listen to me, I will just let them tank whatever enemies they pull or peel off of you. If they can’t be bothered to listen, it makes no sense for you to put in more effort than what’s necessary to compensate for their incompetence.
It’s best if you can get the healer to stop healing those people too. That way, if they pull off of you, they MAY be able to kill the stuff, but they’ll have to eat/bandage between every pull, and the problem will kinda just sort itself out.
But yeah, if people are being rude to you, I think it’s perfectly fine to leave. This is a video game, and we’re all here to have fun. There’s no sense in allowing others to ruin your experience if it doesn’t need to be that way. It’s funny to me how so many DPS are beggars AND choosers at the same time.