Well I am sure not many will give two hoots but I have no family and few friends so pardon my rant here. Let it sink to the bottom of the abyss or do what you will with it. I just found out that my 5 year relationship is basically all for nought.
I found out they were hiding an affair. They went behind my back. Was doing things with someone else. I gave all that I could and had for them. I have no family, nowhere to go and I’m just sitting here lost as can be. What do I do? Where do I go? I just don’t even know anymore…
Edit: Sure I know there are always 2 sides to every story. I’ll be the first to admit I wasn’t, am not, nor ever will be perfect. I did give all I could financially though and emotionally the best I knew how. So anyone with any thoughts or suggestions feel free to fire away I suppose.
Definitely not a line of thinking for everyone but what keeps my trucking along when people close to me slight me and cut ties is the idea that giving up does nothing for me, it only gives them further justification to say that I deserved what I got. Bouncing back and finding your footing is better, not only do you help yourself you get to show them that their assessment was wrong.
Being single is superior. I know it’s hard to accept right now, but it is superior objectively in so many ways. It’s also superior to be in a relationship in a lot of ways, but I think the perks of being single are way stronger and you have way less limitations on how you can live life.
You are liberated, even if you don’t feel it. I’m not saying relationships aren’t worth it, but you gain a piece and you lose one too. Both ways. Grass is greener on both sides of the fence.
Just don’t understand it though you know? Was there when their mother died, their cousin (who was like a brother grew up together same house) and their father fighting life threatening cancer twice (came back). Paid for their stuff, supported them, helped them with their career, cooked their dinners, cleaned the house, worked and did what I could the best I could. Then here I am…just sitting here like…why?
Oh no at this point I agree. All this time wasted and for what? I could bought every mount in the shop and then some on what I spent for them. Taught me many hard lessons but better to learn now than when I’m dead or after 20 years and X kids with them.
And I might be homeless soon too. xD
I just have no family and nowhere to go…so that part is what I am trying to sort out / figure out to do.
I’m sorry you were betrayed like that and put into that situation. Very cruel of them to let it end in that way. I really hope you are able to make it through this struggle.
Everything happens for a reason and all things will work for my good. I know and trust it to be so. I came with nothing into this world, I will leave with nothing too, but I know to have loved and lost is better than to have never loved at all. It’s just a wound, a sting, a deep stab that leaves a venom deep inside that tries to destroy your soul and who you are.
I know I have to be strong. I know I can’t give up. I can’t let it change me, my kindness, who I am or anything negative. There are just a ton of uncertainties right now on what do I do. It was definitely a sidewinder strike in the ribs out of nowhere.
~sits down beside you and wiggles my little feet. Looking at you thoughtfully, I hand over a half-eaten candy bar and some moonberry juice. I look away and mumble something about it not raining all the time. The twilight falls softly.
You know how could I forget that I love female Goblins so much. They’re always so sweet and thoughtful. Thank you for stopping by and sharing with me.
Why I love this song so much and had been listening to it a lot lately. Seems perhaps my Father knew I’d need it. I like it a lot and their music in general. They just did a “soft version” of a lot of their hits. This is one of them but they do have a rock / metal version. Highly recommend this band and their music if you like rock. Their soft version is on their album “Songs of Death and Resurrection”.
Thing is with relationships now a days, its either the woman wants something from you and she will stay and once you dont have it anymore she will leave, or if your an alpha she will stay with you but once and better alpha comes along she will leave… theres non of the love crap anymore, thats like 1960s stuff
You seem to mention quite a few times the financial aspect of your relationship. This by no means make them owe anything to you nor does being there emotionally for someone.
While the cheating broke the trust between you and is a rather crap thing to do to someone, the relationship wasn’t fullfilling to neither of you and you need to figure out why that was on your end in your own time.
You are lucky, you get to spend the next chapter of your life working on yourself and your goals.
They wanted “security and to know they’d be taken care of”. So to me it’s perplexing that despite me fulfilling what they wanted and being there for them in the end it meant nothing. That’s why I mentioned it. It wasn’t a “haha you owe me” gotcha. It was more of a, “if I did what you wanted then why did you do this to me?” Get what I mean?
They flat out just told me “I want to be with other people too not just you.” I asked if I was enough for them in “the sack”. They said yes but they just wanted to be with others too not just me. They said I was good to them but they wanted to explore other things and didn’t want to ask me to have an open relationship and upset me, yet I ended up finding out anyways so here we are. shrug
Repairing my broken heart and life for now. We’ll see where the path goes later.
Sorry to hear that, OP. That is super rough, and I do hope things get better for you. You will find your way forward. Maybe not today, but in time you will. Take whatever time you need to process things. Don’t bury your emotions. Letting negative emotions fester for too long has an extremely negative effect. I can speak from experience.
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