One of my good buds no longer has time to hang out. Busy with a new house, job, wife, and kid on the way. Hard to say if I don’t have a bit of resentment there though as even getting a response is difficult. He’s not the first one either.
What am I supposed to do at 30 without a huge desire to get into a relationship? Seems everyone else is gone. Is there such a thing as friendship at this point in life?
It shouldn’t be a problem for you if you are happy .
Yes the relationship costs time but Friends are important too.
make new friends, but keep the old.
every girl scout knows that.
Marriage does that. Your priorities change once you get married and start having kids.
No more friends at that age. Just enemies. Keep a sword nearby. Always.
Right, I understand that. But is there such a thing as friendship once you hit the age where everyone seems to be doing the marriage/kids thing?
Such is life. I get together with friends when we can find time, but if they’re not busy with family I’m often busy with something myself. My advice if you aren’t interested in finding a relationship: find a hobby. And I don’t mean WoW, I mean something that will get you outside to get some fresh air.
Find other people like you in your same situation and be buds.
of course there is.
but that marriage and those kids? they come first.
Of course.
Though your old friends might not have the same interests you do now. You may have to find some new friends if you want to continue along the same path you are on now.
It doesn’t mean your old friends can’t still be your friends, it just means your relationship with them will be different.
Now, if you ended up in the same situation as they are, and your priorities change, that might put you back in line with what they are doing and you might find them interacting with you more.
You just have to figure out where you are now and what you want.
Make new friends, don’t lose your old ones and:
I don’t foresee a time where they will not be busy with their job, family, etc. Since the age of about 25 its been a long string of friends going off the radar. I’m pretty much the only one left
Yeah I had a similar situation go down a few years back. Best friend managed to fall in love, get her pregnant and have a child all within 12 months. Went months without the two of us talking. Naturally, I felt a little hurt. Fast forward a year later I ended up being his daughter’s godfather. I think once you start a family or have children you naturally seal yourself off, it isn’t personal by any means but at the end of the day, priorities change and you cant fault a person for it
Is there such a thing? I’m bad at making friends as it is, but even when I do it follows the same path. They find themselves in a relationship before long and they disappear off to busy-land.
Seems odd to start off a friendship saying “you are not allowed to find a significant other”
Hi, these are the World of Warcraft forums.
I asked him to play WoW with me and he said he doesn’t have the time for it anymore. lol
You can’t tell someone ELSE how to be your friend.
Friendships change, evolve, and sometimes they even end.
Part of life.
You might have to find some new people with your same interests and let your married friends have a little space. That doesn’t mean “no contact”, but the days of them “hanging out” like you used to might be over for them.
All a part of growing up. In order to keep growing, you can’t hang on to past things. Stay positive, stay happy. Things eventually fall into place.
Your friends to you, and you to them, will always be winding back and forth in and out of your life, whether daily, weekly, monthly or yearly. I’ve found it’s good to have some friends at every level of that, as well as a lot of online pals whose in-person participation is neither required nor requested. If you find yourself lacking for the “daily” type of friend, reach out to a “weekly” friend and see what can be done to get more time together. If it can’t work, I’m afraid you may have to look for others.
hello yes the neat thing about being single with no particular interest in relationships is that you have a lot more control over your time and money. use them both to learn a new skill, or go to a meetup for your favorite hobby and meet some new friends, or get into day hiking, or dink around on the internet all day, or any number of other rad activities
Absolutely. I am 34 and have more friends than I care to hang out with, most of us are in relationships or married as well. I don’t hang out with many of my former single friends anymore, to be fair. Had to forge new ones who are in the same place in life as myself.
Also, adult friendships are more difficult to maintain. You have to actually put more effort into planning time together. Also, don’t expect them to do that. If you wanna be their friend, a good majority of the time you’ll have to wedge yourself into their lives. If you wait around for them to make plans with you, you’re going to end up disappointed a lot.