If you’re looking for someone to run keys with I’d help you out.
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Like a normal person, plenty of people have social anxiety and still hop on vc. This does not mean you have to speak on VC either as plenty of people don’t in guilds.
Ah yes, social anxiety. It’s literally why my guild only has one member. Most people I’ve ever played with at any given time was one, two or three if you go back to the first year I played when half my college friends were into it. Yeah, they totally got real jobs and quit like maybe a year into it. Here I am, still at this, and really not socializing.
I’m a hermit IRL, by the way. I have a great family (married with extended family on her side) plus both parents and at least one brother who I still talk to and who even plays occasionally), but no other friends as of this year. I don’t leave the house more than, at most, once a week. Unless you count getting the mail (mailbox is slightly down the road), but I really don’t.
Even these forums can get me real triggered pretty fast so I’m being extra careful to not say anything the least bit controversial. I’m coming off a voluntary 3 month ban, maybe a little more. Had to leave because too much heat. Was posting things that were drawing too much negative attention, and I was letting all the rage and hate that generated affect my personal life, so I stepped away.
Didn’t even think I’d ever be back, but this character, I dunno, just something about it.
Anyhow, I’ll take low visibility in order to not get blown up by trolls any day.
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Have always struggled with social anxiety but for the better part the game is a safe haven for me. Used ventrilo all through my early years on WoW and discord as recently as BfA. These days it is just something I don’t do, so if the group requires it, I’m not joining.
One thing more awkward than “lurking in VC” is adults getting into a shouting match over a video game. I’m good without it.
I don’t want to play with a headset and don’t want nerds cursing, burping, and derping out of my speakers. Hard pass.
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Clearly some of you haven’t read the entire conversation here.
Clearly some of you have zero intention of seeking help for your anxiety, and just use it as a source of self pity.
Insulting me, and getting angry at me, won’t help you overcome anything. You’ll spend the rest of your lives isolated, and unwilling to seek a way to get help and feel better.
I suggested OP try confronting their fear of social situations, since it is a perfect way to get more comfortable with them in the future. This can help alleviate added anxiety in the future, along with therapy with a therapist you like and trust.
If you disagree with this idea, then what is your alternative road to improvement?
Wallowing in despair won’t help, and neither will attacking me for suggesting alternatives to simply throwing pills at you, like a disinterested therapist would do.
It’s no big deal if you don’t feel like talking in vc. Not sure why you think it’s awkward.
Except that’s not how any of it works in general, with a very select few people it may work, but even then that’s at best unreliable and at worst its going to create an environment in which you seek out what triggers you
Which has a pretty damn profound effect in that on average it makes it worse and instead creates trauma, making it go from fears to fobias and then the mere association of it triggers a traumatic reaction … if you know even the most barebone of psychology, you know what I’m hinting at and you did call yourself a therapist so… let’s not go there
But you are right about one thing:
That, because therapy is the structural and procedual way of confronting and dealing with these things - not full-on exposure to it until one is ready to take that step
But for that you need to both build up the trust you mentioned in both a therapist and the fact that you are doing the right thing to learning how to deal with it
Ultimately, some people may never be at a point in which they can expose themselves to their particular fear for it makes it worse, but one has already found ways to build a good and healthy life around it so one doesn’t need to put a patch on that particular hole that’s broken
This is ultimately the point, to build up oneself to the point where one can live a happy and fulfilling life … at that point one may even be in a good enough headspace and point in life to confront the things that causes this fear, but exposure until then tends to just make it worse when done intentionally, at a way too fast rate, and at too intensive of an experience
Improvement isn’t just “I can now do it”, it is also “I can now deal with it/accept it/live with it” - this is why your idea of a ‘treatment plan’ is at best misguided and at worst bad enough where if you are a therapist … you should probably not have a license to practice anymore
In the same sentence, you say it doesn’t work that way, then backtrack to “well maybe it may work…sometimes!” lol c’mon…
Are you a therapist? Because I honestly hope you’re not if your plan is to never have a person with a phobia ever attempt to face their fear.
If someone is afraid of heights, you eventually want them to go skydiving… or at least work towards that goal.
If someone is afraid of social situations, you want them to attempt to talk to people they don’t know, along with therapy all along the way.
This is basic therapy technique. If you’re dismissing this outright, then you would be doing your client a huge disservice.
Again, you show little knowledge of therapy if you think a traumatic reaction is a terrible thing, and something to be avoided at all costs.
Please…PLEASE tell me you really aren’t really a therapist. Please.
Therapy is NEVER shielding a person from what they fear. That won’t help them heal, or at least lessen their anxiety.
All you’re doing for them is giving them more excuses to live in fear.
I’m pretty sure Dominos is already the worlds worst “pizza”.
it’s almost as if this is a forum, where people communicate with each other and share experiences and advice.
this isn’t a private chat.
indeed.
it could result in the person shutting down completely.
if you are a therapist, surely you shouldn’t be giving advice to people without having gone through their history with them, discussing their triggers, establishing their reactions to certain situations…?
nah… just jump in the deep end, it’ll all be fine.
You’re right.
Never have the person try and face their fears. Ever.
Just pretend to listen to them talk about what they’re afraid of, then tell them how brave they are, and finally, dope them up into oblivion with multiple medications they don’t really need.
Wonderful therapy technique.
Thank you for educating me in one post on a forum.
Genius!
Last time I checked my accute anxiety wasnt a choice. No one with it wakes up makes an active choice to have anxiety .It can be downright debilitating.
I dont have answers on mythic running guilds and how they deal with it seeing as mine doesn’t do mythics unless someone chooses to.
But what we do have is good support and understanding of such.
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Tell them to take magnesium.
take 2 Vitamin B complex every night before bed time.
In the morning take a multi vitamin.
Helped me tremendously! no joke.
Maybe helped you but not everything works for everyone
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Please stop trying to offer solutions.
Some people here get very angry.
They don’t like that you’re not clapping, or playing a violin.
Exactly!
Dismiss everything!
Nothing will help everyone, so don’t try anything!
I mean… if I was suffering… I would be trying EVERYTHING to get/feel better…
Must be just me…
Don’t misinterpet that thank you.
If you truly knew about accute anxiety disorders you would know that’s not the case for anyone except for those that are faking it. And plenty of us have tried more than you know.
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medical professionals should make it their priority to treat the cause, not the symptoms.
i get the feeling you’re a dog therapist or something.
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All true but it helps those who for years all they eat is junk foods.
Eat healthier then the body does respond to eating healthy.
For those who have it and eat healthy anyway can be a sign of food allergy.
If it is not allergy then it is something else.
I had a bad left leg… when was 12 I had a thorn hit me from a tree branch.
It broke off and I was unable to remove it.
The thorn took over 30 years to work it’s way out of the other side of my leg.
One day at work I kept itching a spot and went to the bathroom.
I poked at it and more and more came out and then flashback to when I Was 12.
HOLY COW!!! It took that long to come out.
3 years later after the thorn came out my left leg is now better.
The point here is that some people have a hidden inflamation in their body of some kind that is causing it. Yes does not help everyone but for many there are simple cures.
This exactly. Too many in health care just throw whatever new pretty pill there is instead of finding causes and working with them.Of course without realizing half the time the meds do more damage than good.
I think if you decide you want to do content that requires voice chat, you will have to at least sometimes communicate with the group in order to coordinate with them.
Are you a doctor irl?
Again sure maybe that worked for you but not all thing work the same for everyone and if you had anxiety issues on a severe level you would understand that.