It makes me feel better about myself and reaffirms my thoughts.
I don’t necessarily like putting people down. I think I like being arrogant because of the things that I am arrogant about.
My friends and family have pointed out this trait in me…
For an example. I think I’m one of the best drivers in the world. It’s been 3 years and I’ve never gotten into an accident or have gotten a ticket. At least for my age group I think I’m an amazing driver, and I’m not afraid to show it. I think that fact gives me the “credentials” to be able to brag about my driving skills.
I said to my father who’s been driving for a longer time that I’ve been alive that “I’m a better driver than you”.
I’ve blurted out that phrase on dates, in a playful way. It didn’t go well lmfao but I don’t care. I believe in myself so much.
When ever I am very proud of my abilities I always find myself stressing how much better I am than someone else at doing it. That doesn’t mean I’m saying that they are bad at something. I just like to point out when I think I’m better.
Is that toxic? It probably is. But does it have to be?
I don’t think so. It depends on how you use your arrogance. I don’t try to be mean about it. I just excerpt how much I believe In myself. I almost hope that when I’m being arrogant to someone, I’m challenged. Which could lead to some sort of competition to see who’s better. Is it the competitive spirit within me? Perhaps.
I guess the point of this thread is that arrogance doesn’t have to be an Inherently bad trait.
Cool story, bro. I feel like being humble is a better way of showing your arrogance, and being quiet about it aswell. Say, you’re at work, and co-worker next to you isn’t getting as much work done, or isn’t doing as much of a quality job.
They come up to you after work, or during lunch and ask you how you do such a better job. I don’t know what you would say, but depending on your answer you give to this person, it would be extremely toxic, or it’d be helpful to them.
Funny enough I’ve had a similar scenario happen a few weeks ago.
I work at an Amazon warehouse. Where we scan packages with a device and it shows your “rate”. I was next to a lady for the duration of the shift. And she said “you’re very fast” I guess she picked up how fast I was going. I responded with “Thanks I know” and quickly followed up with “you too” as to not sound like a total a hole.
I just KNOW how good I am.
She didn’t ask for help. She just noticed how fast I was going. I liked the compliment. Personally I don’t Remember how fast she was going. But I did reflect the compliment back to her. Am I an arrogant prick in this scenario. You be the judge.
No, but, like you said. You have no idea how fast she was going. She could’ve asked you what your technique is on going faster, and been a better asset to the company and her coworkers. Instead, she’d rather stay ignorant, or she just observed your technique, learning how to go faster in her own way.
I thought I was an amazing driver once, then got laughed out of the room by my brother. He’s kind of a jerk though, I haven’t had anything but minor scrapes in my entire 24 years of driving, I mean I don’t suck at it, I can parallel park even. But I’ve never totalled a car, the most I got was a flat when I went around a corner and a sharp rock was in the road. Been hit by deer (yes they hit me, like every time) but those are acts of God, nothing you can do. Especially when they torpedo into the side of your car as you’re going by and you never even saw them in the woods.
Being arrogant can serve, but it can also hinder. As I get older I find I am less sure of many things, and that’s okay. I really thought I had everything figured out in my 20’s for example, now the more I know the more I can say life is a mystery. Me, I go humble now. But that’s just me.
It depends on how you do it. You can constantly talk about your self and your achievements and how you are better then others because you are prideful of what you achieved.
Or you could be doing it in manner to be condescending in an attempt to make others know they are your lower. This is more Arrogant.
