Nezmith, respect to your essay, its well put.
But it fundamentally misunderstands the Worgen curse in several aspects.
The Worgen curse in its unconstrained form is essentially a second personality. A personality that drowns its host in rage, makes the bearer the epitome of savagery. Blinds them to sense and reason, makes friend foe. “But it’s alright now, because they’re better and…”
It’s not alright. That rage isn’t gone. It’s just been buried, and only partially.
Genn Greymane says: You know not what you ask. To be forever torn between rage and reason. To fear for your loved ones whenever they are near.
The Ritual of Balance which tempers their rage is not a cure. It is medicine. And, according to the novel Wolfheart, the treatment doesn’t always work. So there is a chance that Tess in taking the curse might need to be put down if the Ritual fails. And best case scenario, even if she makes the hurdle, shes still got the spirit of an animal raging inside her for the rest of her life.
Being a Worgen isn’t like picking up a new lifestyle. It’s like being afflicted with a mental health condition that takes away some control of your faculties, will cause you to kill your friends and family. And even if you get a treatment, its never just gone. Worst case scenario, you still risk harming loved ones, or lash out at small offenses.
There are many things to have pride for. Race, gender (or nonconformation thereof), sexual orientation, maybe even nationality in healthy doses. But no one has pride for mental conditions that rob them of control.
To draw a distinction with the Forsaken, first of all the only loss of control really associated with undeath is from the Scourge enslavement or the temporary resurrection frenzy that we’ve seen from Cataclysm-onwards in new recruits. So someone who becomes a free-willed undead has no such inner beast to wrestle with. They have issues aplenty beside that, including trauma that changes their personality (sometimes to evil).
The Forsaken identity isn’t solely built on that suffering. It’s not even exclusively built on undeath, as non-undead members, although seldom, do exist (namely leper-gnomes). But more than that, pride in that Forsaken identity as a concept isn’t something that exists on its own. Sylvanas was instrumental in cultivating it, giving the Forsaken purpose, an identity, and a place to exist. A rejection of exterior forces demanding their destruction, and an attempt to reclaim and rebuild. (All of which being good on paper, admittedly in practice the Forsaken sure did a lot of demanding destruction of their own neighbors.)
To my knowledge, hardly any Gilnean allied Worgen prop up pride in being a Worgen. Genn Greymane, the faction leader, doesn’t say “For the Worgen!” He says “For Gilneas!” Always. Greymane’s development in dealing with his Worgenhood is along the lines of revealing himself to his countrymen and rekindling his bond with divided Gilneans through a shared plight, but its always the underlying Gilnean heritage which is the focus.
Worgen pride doesn’t seem to exist as a concept in the story. If it does exist, it exists as a concept in players outside the story. And I feel that is potentially mis-attributation on their part. Or a fundamental breakdown in the lore. Sure, given the circumstances of the Ritual of Balance addressing the extreme issues, player characters can probably express Worgen pride, and it might exist in lore in some capacity, but its not mainstream by any canonical appearance that I can note.
Now people who say “you shouldn’t exist” to Worgen have their own problem. That’s akin to saying “You should die” to someone who suffers from clinical-depression-induced mood-swings. And anyone who does that is a scumbag. But do you think that someone who suffers from depression is going to have pride in their condition? It sucks, and they know it sucks.
Tess Greymane got a taste of the curse, and opted to pass on it. She got what she wanted out of it, insight into her people, the curse they faced. Becoming a Worgen at that point would’ve served no purpose, as she already had her people’s respect. Calia’s decision to undergo rebirth into undeath is probably fueled by the rejection at the Gathering, and realizing that she has a long way to go yet.
From a character investment perspective, I understand the concern of your race being “deleted” over time, but putting aside that I again have to question the implication that people assumed that Tess Greymane is going to let the “Worgen” die out. Again, did they assume that the Greymanes was going to propagate a lycanthropy curse with the potential to kill its afflicted? Host blood drinking coming of age parties? Have a “Become a Worgen” lottery? The fact that “let the race die” is considered a concern communicates to me some real glossing over of what the Worgen actually entail.
Now if you’ll excuse me… I am famished, and need some food.