Haven’t seen this discussed at all. Probably because most of you have normal healthy relationships or are single. For those of you who know exactly what I’m talking about what’s your strategy?
I all ready know how my night will go.
Stop playing that game and spend time with me.
Uhhh ok you mean watch tv with you while you ignore me and scroll through tiktok?
I hate youuuuuu.
Awesome!
Now I’m single for a few days and can grind hard. This is the way.
hahahhahha ive been single for a LONG time but god do I remember this scenario SO well… hahhahahah.
I do, however, offer a solution to both of you.
First is: realize that both of you have things that you like to do and enjoy doing seperate from eachother, she watches tv and scrolls ticktock and you play computer.
my solution from a single persons standpoint:
if you both want to truly “spend time together”, you both need to get away from the things that you do on your own seperate time and come up with something to do thats different and preferably OUT OF THE HOUSE.
go for a walk together, a swim, go for a drive somewhere together, go out and visit a store or mall and go shopping but not to buy things but to just look and browse and discuss things that you see that you might like to have. (typically/historically known as window shopping)
visit a park, go out and do a photo day somewhere nice, visit friends or family as a couple.
and other things like that.
hope this helps 
You just tell her that the expansion for your game, which is a hobby of yours, comes out tonight and you’d like to spend the night or next few days enjoying it. Easy.
Get her to play with you? At one point I had 5 people playing in my house lol.
Melatonin.
this is not the way, she dosent want to spend any more time playing WoWcraft than he does sitting watching Jerry Springer or the Kardashians while she browses ticktock.
follow my advice, find something away from the things you both do on your “alone” time and preferably out and away from the house.
its as simple as, if your not willing to make time and take time away from your own “personal” time to spend with your significant other, is he or she even that significant?
its not fair of him to ask her to play wow and its not fair of her to ask him to watch the kardashians as a way to “spend time together”
If you ignore them, they go away on their own.
You know, like how a sink of dirty dishes just up and cleans itself, after a while.
This is a joke post?
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Right?
very vague post with a sub-par metaphor sir or mam. care to elaborate and or include more situation specific material?
reading into this sentence thoroughly I can pick out that when you said " if you ignore “them”, “they” will go away on their own?" and by “them” you mean all of your problems? then the post starts to make more sense. which would also make more sense out of the dirty dishes metaphor
in which case, well done but poorly worded, should have included the word “problems” in there somewhere.
Having no spouse I think is the meta.
Compromise with her. Otherwise you can pay a high price down the road.
You got yourself an unhealthy relationship. If you are having arguments like that, then there are other deeper problems that are actually the cause, and you are not able to communicate them to each other.
And if either of you are telling the other that you hate them, then I feel that you should end that relationship. If you have children, they shouldnt hear that. And the tension and resentment is a horrible environment.
These are some pretty passive aggressive comments. They are also very dismissive. If these correlate to how you communicate to your spouse, then this may be one of the problems. But, again all we get to see is your side of an argument that is very truncated.
All in all, I am just going to guess that you both are unhappy with the relationship and are staying together out of obligation. Best to both move on and find happiness.
Imagine having someone wanting to spend time with you. I’d take that aggro any day.
if someone wants to spend all of their free time to themselves I guess being single would be “meta” then, yes. why even bother pairing up with someone and living with them if you have no intentions of spending time with them or doing anything other than watching tv or playing videogames?
maybe there are other people out there with a lust for life who want to get out and experience and be part of the real world instead of sitting on a couch or computer chair.
its not fair to either partner to live like that, unless thats what they want, in which case, fine, just dont complain about it.
My wife and I spend time together on a regular basis so neither one of us acts out because we’re feeling neglected.
Tax breaks?
Dual Income?
Well first, maybe not the most positive attitude for this situation.
I would suggest getting her to play too! But this isn’t an issue I have experienced.
My man is a gamer at heart as well, we are actually currently building our second computer together!
I like gaming as much as I like camping, and I wouldn’t be in a relationship with someone who doesn’t share those interests.
But, as someone else else suggested, doing something together away from your alone spaces would be the best bet. Go out! Have a date night!
Divorce
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My mom’s idea of spending time with her involved my phone and her stupid TV shows.
Seriously. She never got why I didn’t want to. Her shows weren’t interesting. ESPECIALLY game of thrones.
She just wanted me in the same room.
Also reminded me of a friend. His ex wife was always like, spend time with me and then he’d try to plan something and she’s too busy playing the Sims.
hey man, people want to pair up and life a miserable life complaining every day about their situation but continute to do it because of the tax break and dual income, whos to stop them. just sayin it sounds like a terrible way to live 30-50 years of your life.