How can I better make friends here?

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I have a strong feeling I’m going to regret posting this. Regardless…

I’ve been playing since WoD, seriously since legion. I float around and come in and out, and I’ve found communities and made friends, but I really haven’t found that magic at all in BfA. (This isn’t a secret BfA bad thread, there’s enough of those.)

I’m really enjoying the game and I’m at a point where I want to improve my play and I just feel so lost. I’ve tried finding guilds - every time I do, I just feel like the odd one out, and it’s rare I can find a guild really with a spot for the role I want to play, at the level I want, open to someone still learning the ropes. On top of that, half the guild’s are massive, with 100+ players. I feel like I can’t find anything that’s smaller, that’s nice, that’s open. The last one I joined on my main, it feels like getting a new job, and no one talks to me anyway, even if I really try to reach out. And I mostly just pug, and I’m just tired of pugging? I want to raid, I want to do decently high level M+, I want to be better at my role and my spec, and I just feel like I… can’t, solo pugging any more.

And I just don’t really know what to do? I can’t find the right groups, I’m not making friends through pugging, and I try to sift through some of these discord’s and subreddits and I’ll post there and just no one replies and it all that and it all just feels lost and daunting.

And I don’t know. This post is silly and I anticipate lots of joking/rude/mean answers whatever… but I’m really just trying to ask how you guys make your friends, how you find your guild, how you find your fun. I’m really tired of playing like this.

I donno. This is dumb. These are just really lonely times, and I’d like to have some consistent people to play with, especially with m+ but also with raids, and that feels just so hard to find.

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It’s not silly to me. Having friends or even just reliable gaming pals is really helpful in a game like this.

Most of my friends come from guildies or pugs I add and build a network. Also, asking generic questions helps, too

What is your preferred role?

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I’ll let you know as soon as I make some.

I’m not very interesting or nice, but if you want to do M+ or PUG a raid, add me.

Darien#1929

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Healing is my favorite! I like tanking too, but that’s more daunting for me to pug so I’m much less experienced with it

Thank you! :slight_smile:

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I can be your friend :bear:
But i don’t do high mythic dungeons :sweat_smile:

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It’s something I’ve struggled with a lot, and part of the reason I haven’t played WoW full time since wrath.

Trust me though, great small guilds are out there but you may have to really hunt them out. For me, I had to jump from Alliance to Horde.

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if you want to make friends in this game the best option is to have a aggressive approach. although a stereotype wow ( and the internet as a whole ) is mainly filled with socially passive people.
pop in discord when you see some wild people in there. introduce yourself and meme around with them. show them your uniqueness while also finding more information about them.
i forgot where i read this but humans are very selfish people at first. the best way to approach one is by asking about them. make them talk about what they enjoy ect ect and they soon will respond wanting to know about you.
since you broke down there defensive prehistoric tribal nature of distrusting outsiders there curiosity will start to show.
creating a back and forth.

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Healing is a really in demand role. And I can appreciate the trepidation over tanking.

Feel free to add me, too, Fairlight#1833. I usually run with my wife who’s main-spec healer, but maybe if the stars align we can get a run in or some such.

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why? just play game like it’s a game.

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Downside I’v seen with small guilds is you gotta be pretty active otherwise you aren’t in the clique, which is a shame, I definitely prefer smaller guilds but i wouldn’t want to be beholden to playing more than i’d want over it. I just stick to my anonymous megaguilds these days and guild hop when I get bored.

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That’s the point of the thread, mmorpg. They’re social.

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Real friends? Literally luck

Fake friends? Be nice, friendly and useful and involve yourself in whatever boring social thing they might be doing

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they were 10 years ago, when internet wasn’t so big and open. Now they’re just gameplay systems, you can talk to people anywhere

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WDYM you don’t wanna spend 3 hours on a friday afternoon doing a transmog competition?

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“Friend” might be a bit too strong, but I guess I generally mean ‘nice people to play with, with similar interests.’

A genuine friendship outside of the game is cool, but I don’t mean to seem like I’m begging for (or expecting, or even asking for) that!

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Then finding a casual and similarly minded guild would be the best bet, you slowly learn and talk with each other as time passes by, especially if you are good at the game and they want you around cuz of it.

Good doesnt mean playing roles in demand, usually means good in general, able to do stuff in game like mechanics, knowing your own class etc

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I’ve found doing arena has got me a few online friends, nothing crazy but definitely the only sort of “friends” I’ve made online the past few years that i talk to occasionally, doing 2s especially you get pretty friendly with your 2s partner so that seems to help a lot. Only thing that’s worked for me anyways. I tried doing the go to guild event schtick a lot etc and nothing panned out from it, but yeah, i’d give arenas a shot, even if you just stay 1600 forever, find someone likeminded and it might be fun and turn into a friendship

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Back in season 1 I did a lot of 2v2s for the alliance transmog, and I actually did make quite a few ‘friends’ through that. People seemed to be willing to add you if you had half an idea what you were doing lol

Unfortunately I don’t really enjoy arena/PvP, so it’s not an avenue I’m super interested in right now :frowning:

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are you feeling the regret yet? no? you will soon enough, iF it haven’t hit you yet.

most people do. it’s weird to think of it, but this game is literally the most anti-social game you could ever find. i’m a living proof of that.

here is the problem: most people think this game is like playing in a playground. everyone should know what they should do (which is true to an extent) yet they do not display such.

so when you fumble, they become agitated and berate you. this game doesn’t even allow you to learn! you’re just supposed to know!

what i like to do in those incidents is to be humorous whilst serving them.

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Back in the day, I made a lot of friends just via RP. Not sure if it would work nowadays though.

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