That completely changed your views about a certain situation or your entire life? 10 yrs going through a split up during covid. Losing our guild our real life friends everything… Idk…
So I’m sharing this because I’m leaving wow and everything behind and starting over.
I don’t know anything about pop music or what’s recent but apparently Adele released a cd this year. I can’t link but “To Be Loved” by her changed my entire way of viewing the people in my life. My guild. Everything.
I’ve always tried so hard and that credit is always thrown away any chance it can.
Honestly if a song affects you that much it’s time for therapy. I’m not trying to be mean but If you are that emotionally suggestive it’s time to reach out to someone.
My dad died of cancer 10 days before Christmas. I had to put my dog in the hospital the same weekend I got my dad’s diagnosis and he died before I was able to get home.
I didn’t come to these boards for support because that would be crazy. These strangers don’t owe you anything.
I’m sorry you had a tough time but you need to reach out to real people in your life.
When you open yourself and show vulnerability to strangers there will always be those to cause harm…this should be accounted for and expected.
But on the subject there are songs that do trigger emotional reaponses in me mostly when ive had too much drink.
Owl city vanilla twilight rwminds me of the loss of my grandmother when I was little.
How I became the sea by them reminds me of the days before that where the world seemed so perfect.
Hate me by blue ocrobee makes me have self regret I wont be able to bring my parents a grandchild since I’m gay.
Chameleon boy by them also reminds me of my trying to be what others expect but inside I’m pretty depressed.
Many a times they also have me question why I keep going. Partly because I love music and friends and family…but I think its because I cant turn off self preservation so I can remove the fear of dying.
Otherwise id probly have been gone bout 12 years ago…
Or maybe its queens songs somebody to love and days of our lives that keeps me.
Maybe not changed completely, but rather gave me perspective that I had not considered or realized.
Songs that I can relate to are the most powerful. Songs that make me feel some sense of unity with another human being; just knowing that I am not the only one to think those thoughts or feel those feelings… it is oddly comforting.
Perhaps because knowing that they survived it means that I too can survive it.
As an aside, I am not good at giving the right words when people are going through some of the hardest things life has to offer, but I will give you the words that my mother gave me that I have lived by even through the darkest times - don’t give up.
and it reminded me of my mom who passed away almost 3 years ago now during BfA after battling breast cancer and then leukemia. that song reminds me of her because life has not been the same for me ever since. im less of a push over and more straight forward where as yea people would always take advantage of me and i’d let them; never spoke my thoughts freely now i simply don’t care who it offends. people think me arrogant or kocky but don’t understand why.
the only thing that has changed my views is pretty much being in the moment of something irl. such as when i was a teen i used to do drugs. one day i was high af in class tweaking out. sobered up and looked at my arm all scratched up from a pen like i was giving myself a tattoo or something. thought to myself “wtf am i doing with my life; im still young i need to get my sh** together” so i did. went from failing pretty much all my classes and behind 2 grades in highschool to graduating with my original class, went to college got honors, working a steady job instead of doing what i used to do.
today i went hiking really not a far hike it’s basically just climbing a ton of stairs on a messed up trail since the trail is an old rail road which i think was used in WW2. almost gave up i mean i am a heavy smoker, pretty out of shape in general since i no longer work out. tons of people looking and watching thinking to myself oh they must think im pathetic since i can’t even make it to the top or something. told myself F what they think made it to the top and once i got to the top i pretty much took in the view and thought that basically there is more to life then just the materialistic bs that many of us including myself cling to. more to life to appreciate.
then i climbed down which was also hell. legs were giving out literally could not keep myself standing and nothing to hold on to either but i made it without resting going down. ironically there were many people who were just like me. unfit, obese, w.e. im pretty sure they all made it to the top. like i said it’s not really a hard hike but it breaks people down mentally. literally watched people debating if they should turn around despite they are already halfway there, watched a maybe 12 year old kid crying as he tried to make it down because he was afraid he’d slip and fall, etc…
i’ve gotten into multiple car accidents most of which i didn’t cause that could of either killed me or hospitalized me badly. still out here not injuries and still driving despite one gave me pretty bad PTSD. everytime i’d come home and come through this huge 4 way intersection that is literally right outside my house i’d get PTSD thinking someone is gonna come flying from my passenger side again and smack tf out of me.
