So I just wanted to share my story with you people, and maybe get some advice on what to do.
Just like many of you, I am hugely excited for Classic WOW being released and I originally planned to quit my studies for one year to play the game everyday.
My only problem right now is that… two weeks ago my partner asked me to marry her. I like her and I think she loves me too and if Classic wasn’t going to be released I would have accepted straight away.
The thing is we don’t live together and she doesn’t know about my plan for Classic. I told her that I was going to do an additional course for one year at Uni so she doesn’t get mad about me not studying anymore.
I don’t know what to do know. I wish I could talk to her and explain her that I really want to marry her but right now is not the best moment to do it.
She would ask me why and she wouldn’t understand why a game can be more important than marriage because she’s not a true gamer herself.
In the end, I know that sticking to WOW and enjoying it as much as I can is the best decision but I don’t want her to feel like she’s abandoned. Any advice?
Who in their right mind would ever marry someone they don’t already live with? What if you get married, moved in together, and find out you hate living together?
Also, getting married doesn’t just up and fundamentally change your relationship. It’s a legal document, nothing more.
All good relationships do TWO. EASY. THINGS.
C O M M U N I C A T E.
C O M P R O M I S E.
You seem willing to do neither. This girl deserves better.
Dont even live together? A little advice from an older gentlemen for all those unmarried folk who want to get married some day. ALWAYS live with your potential life partner before getting married. You will learn who you are truly partnered with. If you dont live together, people will hold stuff back that they normally do. Imagine if your partner bites there toenails? Or picks there nose? Or poops in the shower? They arent going to tell you these embarrassing things and they certainly arent going to do it when you are at there place or them at your place. Live together for at least 6 months, get comfortable with each other before popping the big question. Youll save yourself a divorce later.
You sound like a real catch. She should feel honoured being able to marry you at the time of your choosing. Make sure she dresses up as your favourite in game waifu.
Why would you give up marrying a woman you love TO PLAY CLASSIC WOW! IT’S JUST A GAME! In two years you’ll look back, she’ll move on to some guy who doesn’t value a video game over her and wonder why she even liked you in the first place.
My head… my f**king head is about to explode. It seems like every day I read about something dumb on this forum, someone doing something done/ect… YOU TAKE THE CAKE!
Ok, I just deleted a crap-ton of random advice, and will summarise it here:
Play Classic, and pace yourself.
Do your best to find a middle-ground, because choosing how to balance two good things should…ideally not result in having your life torn apart.
She’s not a true gamer? Then guide her into being a regular gamer. Relationships are give-and-take, and you can’t magically expect someone to understand your perspective. The word “true” tacked onto that seems like a cop-out to me; as if you can’t trust her with your enjoyment of games.
If she loves you enough to wait a bit, or to acknowledge your favourite game and understand it, then you’re in a good spot. If she refuses, then…maybe she asked you to marry her for the wrong reasons?
I have no idea how young you guys are, but you seem pretty young. Delaying marriage is not an unheard of thing.
Don’t make it about WoW, make it about you and her. If you’re not ready to get married, tell her you’d love to, but not yet. Heck, be engaged for a couple years first maybe? As someone who has never even dated (uh oh, better stop reading my post) I have no idea what’s expected at that point.
Go get freaking married dude are you insane. Stop thinking about it. Stop talking about it. Server launches are good memories sure but overhyped it will still be here in 2 weeks. And leveling will probably be much easier.
This is your literal life were taking about here
Edit: and marrying your wife is a far more good memory than anything this game can offer you. Delay will only cause problems due to your wishy washy attitude which she will no doubt take personally.
Boom next thing you know life directly ruined by a poor decision
You cannot start with a lie, so you have to tell her the truth and listen to fireworks if you have to. If she waits then it is with full knowledge.
Once you marry her playing will possibly never be possible. If she is marrying you, she had better know about wow. You wont be able to hide it from her.
Decide clearly if she is for you or not. No " like " business. Either you love or you don’t.
The truth about lying is not that a person lied its about why they lied. This whole notion of extreme honesty has created such a problem with human interactions.
As someone who is married let me give you some advice. You think she loves you? You better make sure marriage won’t fix relationship issues but make them worse. Marriage is a full time job outside of a regular job. If shes not a gamer one of two things will happen. 1) she will constantly be jealous over the game or 2) she will be open to your down time and respect it. However if you are quitting school over a game you sound like you will neglect her needs as well. I would not put off studies over a game. You can do both and maintain enjoyment out of the game. Overall my suggestion for you is one you seem to young to be married or have not reached that level of maturity so do you both a favor and stay single. Second don’t give up school for gaming. Trust me I did and I’m stuck working in a call center hating that I didn’t apply myself when I was younger. K
