@Stilldissin - I have created characters and been playing on the perpetually “Full” Wyrmrest Accord (as Horde) for the last month, and have never needed to wait to log on. I have never been “instanced” into a weird variant of a region, even in Orgrimmar at its most crowded. When I’ve gone into a dungeon via an automated pick-up group in the “Dungeon Finder” tool, the party has been from a random assortment of other servers, mostly non-RP servers.
Your original question was about a server with a strong, friendly community for a new player. I cannot recommend any of the RP servers. WrA is overpopulated with bored level 120s for whom RP activities are their only real entertainment in the game. I have tried “newbie” guilds for low level players, going through game content and dungeons for the first time. Alas, they all were disorganized junior-high and high-school type organizations where the guild was mostly aimed at providing buddies for the guild leader while he or she advanced upward.
Sadly, I don’t believe that newbie-friendly, helpful guilds still exist. Certainly none that team up for open-world content, or lower level dungeons. If you check in the newbie guild thread ( New Player Friendly Guilds Check In Here! ), you probably noticed that the last few posts were a couple months old, and about guilds devoted to higher end activities.
It seems sad to say, but the game is buried under the weight of literally millions of bored, jaded, level 120 players. They complain about the lack of new blood, and the increasing number of bored drop-outs, but make no effort to be helpful and interactive with true newcomers.