Seems like you didn’t prog on A1-A4S in Heavensward.
After you leveled PLD to 60 because the “great community” suggested it as the “best tank,” only to find out that almost nobody was taking PLD into Alex Savage because it was too far behind on damage compared to WAR and DRK. (Even if you don’t use ACT or something, a group being able to clear with their tanks playing WAR/WAR, DRK/DRK, or WAR/DRK, but not if the tanks were playing WAR/PLD or DRK/PLD because of not meeting a DPS check leads players to understand PLD is doing less damage.)
And then after you leveled WAR up to 60, and had to go re-farm all your accessories and materia because the “great community” - even prog raiders - didn’t say “btw, never tank tank accs and melds, only ever take str accs and melds.”
Firstly: FFLogs exists, with a crapton of logs, for a reason.
Second: FFXIV is just as full of people that, emotionally, are at about the level of a second grader. You have a lot more toxic positivity than negativity, but toxic behavior is still toxic behavior. Even then, the game is by no means devoid of toxic negativity, either; the fat is trimmed in the middle, but both ends of the spectrum are still live and kicking.
For everything I’ve experienced and/or put up with in WoW, I can honestly say I’ve never had to block someone in WoW that was harassing me because I did group content with them and other people, and had the nerve to accept an FC invite from a different person before this person could make a pitch for inviting me to their FC.
Had this person not tried to go on and on about this, this would actually be a hilarious happenstance, but no, I had to block, and ultimately report, a person for being so emotionally stunted that they made the Onyxia Wipe animation look like a bastion of humility.
Not to mention people being personally offended when you don’t greet them in FC chat when they log into the game, and people being personally offended when you don’t respond to a greeting in FC chat. They’re so insecure and feel so entitled to your emotional labor that they feel slighted when you don’t acknowledge them in a game where so many quests put you in cutscenes that hide your textbox, cutscenes that are often several minutes long, when they log in. Yeah, those are definitely arbiters of maturity.
I’m by no means saying WoW has a great community. I’m saying at least in WoW, the a-holes are 100% aware they’re a-holes and generally won’t try to argue that they’re not. There’s far less gaslighting, far less demand of parasocial relationships and emotional labor, etc. It’s just people that know they’re jerks, being jerks, and that’s honestly far more preferable to me than people that suggest they’re any more moral, ethical, humble, or mature than “toxic” players, while being ignorant - at least sometimes willingly - of how “toxic” they themselves really are.