You know , I’ve been thinking. I don’t really fit in any where. A lot of my thought processes seem be a bit controversial and I’m very vocal to speak my mind as you all already know and will express my thoughts to the end of time.
I have many interests, but don’t really fit 100% any where and my interests aren’t exactly strong.
Enough for small talk or basic topics. Like cars, I know a bit, but I don’t rebuild engines or drag race.
Cycling, I enjoy getting out and getting fresh air, but I’m not interested in competing for no events.
I have a very large knowledge when it comes to PC hardware, almost obsessive. Everyone knows PC hardware with my peers, wow, gaming etc.
Have a pretty good education and I know stuffs.
My skill sets are glass background which I can’t do anymore due to spinal condition. My newly trained skill set is logistics. I love driving forklift, but not much to fit in with anyone, besides that sick burnout I did behind the warehouse management didn’t see lol.
Try again I suppose. I have like 2 very close friends (well one is my cousin). Quality > quantity. I’d rather spend 3 or 4 evenings playing Rocket League with my cousin than trying to fit in with a crowd.
dont know how old you are, but for the most part the older you get the more you’ll likely see this as a good thing lol
My favorite teacher in HS always wore a button that says 'Why be normal?".
She was literally the teacher that turned me around. Im not normal. I dont want to be normal I dont want to fit in. I want to be who I am and those who can stand to be in the same room with me are welcome to stay…and those who cant get weeded out pretty quickly.
Sounds very familiar. I have dozens of hobbies. Im not the best or the worst at any of them. I dont really involve anyone else. My hobbies, my interests, are for me to relax and enjoy myself. I enjoy learning a little about a lot.
The older Ive grown, the less I want to fit in…not that I really tried to much when I was younger. People basically annoy me most of the time anyway. No reason to want to deal with more annoyances.
My grandfather ended up a hermit later in life. Im finally understanding why he enjoyed it as much as he did.
Just be yourself and dont even try to fit in. If youre trying youre changing yourself to fit and thats usually just going to cause some kind of problem…resentment in some cases.
Always. I don’t understand the people who push for friend counts on social media or the like. I have a raid group I run with, and a majority of them are awesome. But I also have my smaller group of very tight knit friends that I prefer to play with. You just need to find one other oddball that makes you happy.
To the question: I’m the only girl in a 17-man raid. It can be…interesting sometimes. I fit in just fine, though I also don’t really follow some of their humor so it gets lost on me. Often times I do feel like I’m a little bit of an outcast, but it’s no fault to them; they’re all great. There are just some days that I wonder if I do actually fit in with the crowd. But then I have my two best friends there and I’m at least more comfortable.
I’m probably much older than you think mate. I wish I was a teen again but, I’d knuckle for sure and change some things.
Maybe I’m just reflective loneliness? I don’t know. I have no interest in relationships or having kids, so that’s a waste of time in my mind.
A lot of my friends from when I was in my 20s which was long time ago (don’t even guess please), they’re got kids and family and I feel like maybe I suppose to force some relationship. I still don’t want it.
But as you get older, you wonder things, hence this post.
I don’t fit in by choice. I work 40 a week, gym and game(wow mostly) with all my free time. My wife is the same. She and 2 other people I call friends. I don’t need anymore. I feel overwhelmed easily. Having too many friends causes drama too easy and feels like a full time job appeasing everyone. I like to keep my personal info to a minimum.
Well, you mentioned being vocal, why not make your own space?
This is something I struggle with teaching my daughter. Sometimes she worries so much about fitting in with other people. She never has a good answer for why she can’t make her own space and be someone other gravitate to to fit in with.
I’m late 20s recently moved from tech to desk jockey so it’s a little different, but I’ve played Hockey and Football since I was a kid, and it actually doesn’t help because I never followed pro sports. I was still that weird guy into Japanese stuff until streaming made anime mainstream now I’m good with most people.
In life? Gosh no, I live alone in an apartment with two cats. I have no friends or family living near me, I don’t go out, I barely even leave my apartment anymore with COVID and working from home. I spend every holiday alone, birthdays are a lesson of isolation, and I do my best to be there for when other folks are having a bad time.
I don’t say the above to try and get any pity, it’s simply the reality I live in. It doesn’t bother me most days.
Edit: 26 years old, by the way. So I’m starting my not fitting in early!
yeah…I guess Ive just gone the other direction. lol.
Im so sick of people and relationships and all the drama in life.
Im just at the point where I want people to leave me alone, stay out of my path and when I die one day not to bother me with remembering I existed, lol.
I will say that Id like to be buried face down for the same reasons Red Foreman does, lol…