By this I mean our sense of self shifting when online vs. irl. Do you view yourself as the nice person merely defending your stance by any means possible? If someone disagrees or says something that is not nice do you get wound up and feel the need to defend yourself? When you see that spiteful person just say something unkind which I think is a way to define themselves online. How do you use the forum to define yourself?
I sometimes wonder if people pay attention to the emotions they are going through that day translating into trigger responses. I see smart people use words as weapons to someone that might not be on the same level of understanding. I see people use the word ‘toxic’ if someone disagree’s. I also see some put on online persona’s and am not sure who they really are as a person. Who and what is genuine and authentic.
I know it’s a weird question. But I wonder if some want to argue just to argue or get attention? If anyone is aware of who they really are? Or do they actually talk that way to the grocery clerk on the way out or say something to make their day better. Are you YOU when you post and someone disagrees and you have to put someone down to feel better about yourself or do feel like you’ve been personally attacked? Or just blow it off thinking someone is just having a bad day?
This isn’t meant to rile anyone up. I’m genuinely wondering if you know who you are when you respond to a disagreement. …or maybe social media built us this way?
Edited: do you view yourself as the good guy?
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Usually this. Half the time the people arguing with me are bringing up things that other people have said and overlaying them over my comments, which I’ve also made the mistake of doing.
So, when that happens, I know they’re just overly wound up over the subject and are no longer able to differentiate between what any individual is saying, they just treat them all as some monolith to be attacked.
If I found myself actually getting angry over any of it there is an X at the top of my browser that I can just press to close it. Super useful.
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step #1: Your entire personality doesn’t revolve around a game.
Rising your blood pressure over a random person on the internet is absolutely insane.
The people who can’t deal with online discourse at the slightest sign of disagreement should re-evaluate their emotional fortitude.
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There’s a difference between disagreeing and being personally attacked.
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If it’s on this forum then I couldn’t care less what people think or say. If I were browsing this forum yesterday then I will not remember anything about it the next day. That’s the reality.
I think the only time Ive ever gotten ‘angry’ about something said inhere was a long while back someone joking about Self Harm as it related to others…making light of provoking it.
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I feel personally attacked when I go to work at retail and deal with customers, this is a Wendy’s.
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I like to think of our characters attacking each other, not the people. I have nothing against the people because I don’t know them so how could I, really? So Rita is some feisty little bean getting into squabbles with cows, etc, it makes this less personal and more fun.
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lmao…I was so bad at dealing with customers the owner told the manager to keep me away from the customers 
I have no tolerance for stupid…and some of those customers…geeezus lol
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Nah, I just pity them for being wrong
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But why even bother with them when you know they’re not going to change?
No.
I only feel personally attacked when people play Demon Hunters.
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If you mean responding to those who personally attack… it’s usually either done to call out their behavior to others or in defense of oneself from what I’ve seen.
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Attacked? No.
Miffed when they try declaring their opinion as objective fact? Slightly.
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I like Rita! At least you know who you are. Sometimes I don’t think people know who they are and always view themselves as the good guy.
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Personally attacked over a simple disagreement? No.
Personally attacked if someone personally attacks me? Yes.
This seems like a weird question.
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No, not usually. 
It is a little strange to bump into somebody following me thread to thread trying so desperately hard to find something I’m wrong about, though.
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So many main characters around here that the main character role is pretty watered down. 
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