It seems to be a common theme no matter where I go, I constantly get called “rude” “toxic” “obnoxious” etc when I talk in party/instance/raid chat.
Some of the time I can accept it, but most of the time I am just trying to explain basic concepts.
“Just f’in die. We are wasting time. Let them reset.”
“Why didn’t you just die? Look how much time we wasted.”
“What no inc call?”
“An inc call doesn’t help when its done AS THEIR CAPPING”
“Inc calls with numbers please. 1 vs 5 vs 15 means a lot.”
“Why are you are pushing for a 4th base? Just hold the 3 we already hold.”
I can’t promise you this is how they are stated, but the general intent behind what I write. And just for trying to give basic instructions or advice I get called everything in the name of the book.
I’m sure it is in the way I am phrasing it.
In the first examples I can sort of accept the rudeness and toxicity on my part. But to be fair it was +9 Mythic Shrine of the Storm and a couple extra packs got pulled, and rather than die the priest healer decided to keep pulling back towards the entrance. I died three times before the rest of the team finally decided to stop respawning and they ran out.
As an aside, their response as to why they refused to to die “Food buffs are expensive bro.” So because they refused to just die, the rest of the team including myself took extra repair costs, and we wasted easily 3-4 minutes. Toxic of me some may say, but I dropped. Feel bad for person whose key it was, but for that just ticked me off. Got expletives thrown my way which I possibly most definitely deserve. Also got threats of reports, which I am 99% sure will result in nothing.
But I digress.
The other examples come from battle grounds where I am perfectly calm. Just perplexed by my allies inability to do what they need to be doing. There is generally no expletives so as to speak.
Maybe stating it as a question is viewed as rude? I’m sort of used to it, asking why someone isn’t doing what they are supposed to be doing as a way to call attention to what they should be is sort of part for the course growing up and in the work environment, but maybe saying it as a statement would be better?
Maybe it comes off as condescending?
And maybe people feel as though they are being singled out?
Looking for advice. Gets tiring getting called names just for trying to help people and give instructions. In general I get told that what I am saying is correct, but to shut up. But I’d rather speak up and give instructions, because genuinely people may not know.