Unfortunately for you, I’ve been here since the beginning of virtual time. You would be hard pressed to find one older than me and unlike those with glasses tinted with rose permanently affixed to their faces and great amnesia addling their minds (or more like weren’t actually there and parroting what they heard otherwise), I remember far too well the bad old days.
Those receiving the collective boot from LFG groups, ESPECIALLY those having it happen to them “all the time” have only to look in a reflective surface to see the face of the true antagonist of their personal story and thus should seek to do battle with them alone to vanquish that which torments them so. It is themselves in case that isn’t abundantly clear. They’re the problem.