I’m not easily tilted in ow but, every other game I get a guy or two who wines something along the lines of “dumb e-girl…” “the e-girl threw” “i hate [Redacted] e-girls” ect.
It never really got to me until last night my friends 12 year old sister was in a comp game with us off mic and a guy started coming at me giving me crap. It breaks my heart bc I want her to be able to play this game comfortably without worrying about getting flamed for her gender.
Anyone got any good way to dealing with jerk wads like this?
Maybe some lighthearted way I can handle this sort of trolling?
Has anyone had any positive stories dealing with people who attacked you for being a girl? (I just need something to make me feel better about this xD)
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You either banter/insult back and roll with it.
Or press P, and mute that individual player, and then report.
Additionally, if they are especially toxic, you add them to your “Avoid this player as teammate” list. And you can cycle through this list. Because usually you only need to avoid someone for 20 minutes, to not get matched with them again.
Get confused as I am a guy, and it has happened as I don’t talk and played a lot of mercy.
of course in my experience it was funny to me but for you all I can really recommend is muting and if it comes to it reporting.
Honestly, the best thing you can do is bully the crap out of them in the most polite passive aggressive way possible.
I’ve tried being sweet.
I’ve tried being nice.
I’ve tried to have a conversation with them and reason with them to broaden their horizons. 9/10 it doesn’t work. These boys who say these pitiful things are not ones to reason with.
I’m incredibly confident in my skill as a support/tank and often save my teammates. So, when I do come in clutch and sweep them off their feet from danger and death, I often make sure they know I did that for them. I make sure they realize how much I’m carrying the game and how often they depend on me. Usually by the end of the match they either shut up or they end up adding me… and we actually become friends.
Sometimes you gotta talk hard back with them. “It’s a boy’s game” as they say so talk back.
Screw it.
But, if you aren’t comfortable with that yet, it took me some time to develop some thick skin, simply mute them and carry on. Just please, whatever you do, NEVER leave voice chat. I hate when people advocate for that. I paid just as much as everyone else so I should have full access to all the game’s features and voice chat is one of them. I’m not leaving because I’m a girl.
the best way to deal with them is mute them, report them, and encourage others to report them in private so they get banned since reports in mass are best. if youre in a group have them report too.
talking back or attacking with a retort will only make it easier for them to report you. some do this thing just to get a response to get ppl they dont like to get banned and then even their friends/party reports you too
I’m exaggerating. I’m not saying to tell them to kill themselves or something dramatic. Just don’t be timid and shy. They shut up really quickly. I’m often quite graceful about it as well. Passive aggressive. Is that better?
The weird part too is for whatever reason, most of the other guys in the game are silent when I am first flamed for no reason. But by the end of the match they oddly voice their disappointment in the other teammate.
actually no 2 very different things. for example losing a game and not playing arent the same. you got to play one. not playing means not doing that.
ppl rage at a loss. not playing isnt the same.
bc youre telling someone not to play bc of these ppl. if they do that those ppl win and get to keep being that way. muting and playing comp is vastly different than not playing comp. you play comp and dont talk so clearly theyre not the same.
lol that’s never worked. talking back just creates and back and forth and everyone loses.
bc ppl rather not be apart of it sadly.
cowards is why. get or encourage them to help not after. at least ask them to report the problem person. it’ll help n the long run.
oh I am aware, sorry if it didn’t come off like that, I was saying that even as a guy I have still been called one because people assume the mercy not talking must be the fault and it is a go to insult.
After 10 years of things like this I know how to handle the situation such that that doesn’t occur. You always have to “feel the room” so to speak to understand what are the bounds are in a given situation and context. How I approach the conversation is always situational. There simply does not exist a black and white approach to this kind of thing. But again, the advice I’d offer is continue to talk in chat regardless of their comments. Everyone is different and if you aren’t the one to play ball right back, mute the individual person, DO NOT, leave voice chat. Don’t give them that win.
I will not call on other guys to back me up. I’ve learned that many times the hard way. That’s how to pit everyone against you. I’m not sure if you’ve dealt with this yourself…
It is factual that males dominate the gaming population, so when a girl like you comes around, they will proceed to assume you are trash and blame you for all of THEIR short comings. Just find out who’s a jerk and mute them.
Laugh it off or go with it? It’s hard to make fun of someone when they are “owning” what you are trying to make fun of.
I’m not a girl so I’m not sure how that strategy would work. I will say that, in games where I am with a girl, I almost never see girls getting harassed, but it is admittedly a small sample size.
I played with one girl regularly for awhile and she would just amp up the aggression in response to comments like that and it would stop. Again, though, not sure if this is the best strategy and it is contingent on you being able to be aggressive.