So long story short: In a comp match I was the dps, chose Symmetra, the match was on Watchpoint Gibraltar, we started as the attacking team but were getting our butts kicked in the first round, the team asked me to change dps but I politely refused because I was set on playing symm for whole match no matter what, they all start saying stuff like “you’re a loser noob” or “we’re all reporting you”, we didn’t manage push the payload to the end.
In the 2nd round me & my mates suddenly got stronger, I felt that being the defending team was more suited for Symm, we won the match, every one said the usual “gg” and “great job”, but unsurprisingly no body apologized to me for the mean stuff they said and for probably reporting me before the match even ended or even acknowledging my improvement in the 2nd round.
I got so angry that before the lobby closed I wrote in chat " don’t ever insult me again, stupid M***** F*****s". It wasn’t enough. I tried sending friend requests to each of them so I can DM them and violently ask each of them “why didn’t you apologize?”. I even wrote each of their names down on a list.
Am I justified or should I just calm down & touch some grass?
Calm down and touch some grass. In the end, no one owes anyone an apology. No one is entitled to an apology. Why would you purposely get yourself reported for being toxic in the end?
Move on and requeue.
It’s just a game. Mute/block people like that and move on. What a complete stranger thinks in a video game has absolutely no impact to your life.
Yes, you got too angry. Messenging them after is a bit much. Especially in games, never let anyone see you get upset. It never helps you.
id say you werent angry enough
tell them youre about to drop some new symm lore, burn their city down and make a new home for vishkar
you are understandably mad. Your chosen reaction may get you in trouble though, because you DID use abusive chat.
seemed like a good story till the end lol… kinda lost it there but hey nobody is perfect. just dont be surprised tho if you ever get a warning or worse banned
Let me share a story and a lesson here.
So Junkertown. I lock in my main Wreckingball and we go to town. I do fantastic the first round. I’m getting picks, I’m booping people off the map, and by this point I am sweating hard reaping the benefits if my hero. Boom! We get the first capture.
Second round comes along we are on defense. My Ball starts to lose value as now they have a Sombra and Roadhog to counter me, then they also had this overaggresisve Mccree who thinks he can counter me using me as a major target sign for his pistol. Sadly…I wasn’t doing good. Yet with the way things were going and how rough it was getting the only hero I trusted to play at that level needed to contest with the enemy team was my Winston or Wreckingball.
So I swap to Winston to play more backrow and then dive on opportune moments for my team. At this point the Sombra goes Reaper and I’m just gettinf demolished. I play defensively and get wrecked I try jumping in and there’s no followups the healers are having difficultly and this dang Roadhog keeps bullying me along with Sombra/Reaper dude. Then I still have Mccree gunning for me every time.
I’m getting frustrated at this point and by now our Mercy speaks up and asks for a change. So I change to Ball, wjich she then replies “Oh God not the ball again! Anything but Ball, or monkey!” With which two other teammates agree I’m not being a good tank and start asking for shields.
So now I’m super ticked. I have no experience on anything, but dive yet clear that three of my teammates wanted me to try something else. My shield and brawler tanks suck and I knew they wouldn’t cut it against a well organized team of opponents like the ones we’ve been facing.
So I stick to Winston and held the final point as long as I could, since Winston is strongest on that map on the last payload route. One of their supports go Zen the Mccree goes Mei and I am conpletely countered by now and feel helpless with a team who is angry at me.
I have said nothing all game. I huff and pray that round three goes better. It didn’t. I go back to Ball hoping to stomp the enemy as I did the first round. This time though, they were expecting me. I go Winston I get slammed in the same manner. We only managed to get pass the bridge in the center or town right before the jeep.
My team is flaming me now asking for a better tank. But I know I don’t have a better tank. Dps still don’t dive with me despite us having a Genji and the Mercy is still complaining because whenever she heals me she just dies because she is in way too deep.
Round four. We’re on defense and I decided “Screw it. I’m playing what I can to win this game.” The enemy roadhog is still super annoying the enemy sombra goes Sombra again, but I was expecting her this time and played close to my team. The original Mccree player tries going Sym and Reaper, the Zen is discording me at every chance. In this round it felt like the entire enemy team was upon me and I had no back up.
Fearlessly I charged in knowing I’d die over and over. I change some of my tactics and while it works I still have to face another enemy after that first pick. We struggled, but managed to hold them off by the gate. I start to focus on quick fireball runs and only boop and piledrive when my team has sightline.
The clock is ticking and the enemy is close by the bridge. We pick them off and they start to stagger, not without giving us a hell of a fight. My beaten up Hammond walked away from there brusied battered and bloodied. But in the end we won by the skin of our dang teeth!
The endgame screen comes on and I’m just sitting there exhuasted. My team messages us in team channel flaming me for being a bad tank. The tow other players agree. That’s when a shining light of retribution came forth in the form of that dumb Mccree player messaging in all chat “Ball is so broken!” Then the Sombra playrr who replies “Nerf Ball”.
I perk up and smile because I knew that my hero pick was right! So I pop into chat and message in all chat “You see! This is why I stayed on Ball! This is why I couldn’t swap!”
All players leave the lobby and now it jsut me and my thoughts. I played well. My hero pick was justified and those teammates of mine were wrong and saw that. I did not gloat. I did not brag. I simply played the best I could with what I could. And in the end that’s the reward. I didn’t even need to be anger, because I knew.
You went overboard. This is unhealthy behavior.
We’ve all had games where we get unlucky and have a stack on our team that blames the random for everything. All you can do is avoid and move on. Someone calling you a ‘noob’ or threatening to report you does not make harassment outside of the game acceptable. Say what you want to say before the game ends and leave it at that.
It’s also a bad look to rage. You let people know they got to you. Laugh it off and get creative with insults. Just straight up calling someone a MFer does nothing to help you.
Probably should work on letting things go and not worrying about some randoms that are heated up in comp. You should calm down and touch some grass instead of trying to add people so you can continue berating them.
No one is going to apologise to you. Even if you won, they’ll likely think they would have won more quickly if you played the way they wanted you to play. So what’s the point in asking.
I certainly get annoyed in comp sometimes with my replies to people annoyed with me. But I always try to remember nothing will be gained by arguing. It will just annoy you and them and your team will be more likely to lose. It’s practically never going to result in “Oh yeah you’re right, lets work together”. Most I’ll try to say if I can remain level-headed is “Hey I’ll play my character, how about you focus on playing yours.” and leave it at that. Sometimes a little narkier “Sorry I don’t take coaching from people that are my own rank. Focus on improving yourself.” Tho even then, It’s better to just not reply because even that might continue some argument instead of focusing on the game.
validation from the enemy is the best kind
The logical thing to do would have been to report and mute them, you let your emotion get the best of you. It’s understandable, you were upset and wanted vindication, but ultimately you met hostility with more hostility.
You’re all very right. Letting go is probably for the best. Ya i’d better delete their names from my list, that was some psychotic behavior from me.
I assume this is satire.
Unfortunately no. This happened just yesterday.
Were you too angry? Yes. But only towards the end when you tried adding your teammates who were flaming you.
Do you deserve to getting reported? No. What you’re doing isn’t considered gameplay sabotage.
Yeah, you let them get to you. Insulting them isn’t going to change their minds. The friend request thing is very insecure. I understand getting upset, but make sure to try to keep your cool. Next time be happy you showed them by winning. I don’t say a word. There is no point.
It’s normal to get very worked up when multiple people are bullying you, but I think after that match you should have taken a 10-20 minute break to cool down
You need Jesus.
It’s not about your right to feel angry. It’s about the extremes of your response to that anger. There are tons of a-holes, especially in a team-based gaming environment with no filter. If you go out of your way to track down people and continue the escalation of aggression that they started, you only hurt yourself in the end as you will become more and more affected by people like them in the future. You will get more annoyed each time, you will feel worse and worse when it happens, and the good times will not be enough to outweigh the bad, as negative impacts tend to linger far longer than positive ones. That’s just how our human brains are wired.
My advice is learn to let it go, acknowledge that not everyone in the world are empathic or capable of minding their own business. Don’t step down to their level, as it is only self destructive in the end. Realistically, at best you gain nothing from it, and at worst you sabotage your own mental health over it.
I know many people who had to drop games they loved because their mental couldn’t handle their own aggression and how they kept escalating situations instead of just letting go and not taking things to heart.
It ain’t easy, but it is a skill that is required just like aim and game sense. Strong mental.
I’m crap at DPS but last season I had a Comp match I play Sym on both payload attack and defense.
On the attack the other DPS carried as Hanzo and were things harder I might have been yelled at to switch, but Hanzo and tank managed to lead the way to the end point
Then on Defense Sym excelled no surprises and we shut them out totally from Payload.
Since that match I started to try to diverse into heroes more suited for attack, trying Reaper and 76. I have no interest in one tricking, just no skills to learn to play much heroes.