He only plays Bastion, but he does it poorly. This isn’t Kolorblind we’re talking about. In fact, he did his placements for all 3 roles and placed lowest in DPS / Bastion - and he’s steady falling. He’ll be Bronze within the week at this rate. The thing is, he’s constantly blaming everything but himself for his failures. It never ends - he nonstop complains about the most inane things. He refuses to get coached, he refuses to join a Discord and get help, he asks me for advice and then mocks me and acts like he knows better.
He thinks that if the game had several pointless features he’d suddenly climb out of low Silver into top 500, and refuses to listen to me when I tell him that he doesn’t even have to play something different (although it would definitely make it easier at times) - he just needs to improve himself. He doesn’t understand that the best players work with what they’ve got available and power through - he wants everything handed to him.
But no, it’s his teammates’ fault. It’s Blizzard’s fault for not giving him pointless features. It’s definitely not his fault that he couldn’t find a health pack when he won’t even take the time to learn the maps. He wants a scoreboard - not to improve himself (not even exaggerating here) - he wants it to blame his teammates and to “defend himself” when his teammates ask him to switch because Bastion isn’t working. As if big numbarz make a loss better somehow, when switching heroes or simply playstyle on Bastion could have led to a win.
I just don’t know what else I can do. I’ve known him for a long time but I’m really getting tired of him whining instead of doing anything at all to improve himself. What can I do, any thoughts?
Im pretty sure your friend that you have known for a long time, cant play a character that doesnt self heal. Maybe you could spend some quality time explaining where the health packs are so he can play tracer some of the time.
I used to be this way. Always blaming my friends and teammates for my own mistakes. I ended up falling from high plat all the way down to low gold and even silver on Support during the RQB.
Your friend needs to take some accountability and realize that until he looks inward rather than outward, his game will never improve and he’ll never have fun.
Your friend is lacking perspective which he himself cannot attain due to the Dunning-Kruger effect
In the field of psychology, the Dunning–Kruger effect is a cognitive bias in which people mistakenly assess their cognitive ability as greater than it is. It is related to the cognitive bias of illusory superiority and comes from the inability of people to recognize their lack of ability.
Just tell him straight, even if it upsets him. I’ve been in the situation myself with one of my friends, he blamed everyone and that’s when I finally had enough and told him that he was terrible at the game, and the reason he was losing so much wasn’t because of his teammates but the fact he made dumb decisions all the way through the game, and even pointed them out to him, he didn’t speak to me for a couple of weeks but he did message me eventually saying that I was right and that he wants to improve. So be honest, even during matches you play with him point out his mistakes it can be rude but its what they deserve if they are so far up their own butt.
idk how old your are man but your gonna meet people and know people who are so hard headed that they will sink with the ship before they admit to their own responsibilities or faults.
seen people yeet there actual lives out the window rather than admit they were wrong,
A sinking ship is a sinking ship if he doesn’t wanna leave the boat, let him go down with it. i don’t play with a few friends who are like this. having a difference in opinion in a game shouldn’t really matter in the scheme of strong friendships anyways
Well, its kind of hard if your friend is refusing any kind of help. Maybe go duo with him if you have acc for it and record game from replay from his point of view. And point out his mistakes and force him to watch it
Or, just play with him and be mean to him, if good aproch doesnt work. Point out his mistakes take it to extreme, tell him how bad he is… stuff like that. I know its harsh but maybe it will wake him up.
i’m dying…
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