Fix the "appear offline", please

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This is not a really discussed topic but the fact that it doesn’t really work is annoying. I like to play with one person at once mostly because of my anxiety and the fact that it’s awful just makes things worse. I want to play with that guy only, i put myself as offline, and my friend thinks i’m ignoring them and gets mad at me, and as soon as me and the guy finish our match they ask to join our group, and to not appear as a c*nt i have to accept. Please make it so people who put themselves as offline can’t get requests of people who want to join their groups, can’t be spectated nor invited, it would make much more sense and everyone would be happy and satisfied

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i have anxiety too and yes please someone fix this!!!

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Wait, what exactly is the problem here? I’m not sure I really understood, how does it not work properly?

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It’s because you can still get people requesting invite while you’re appearing offline. There really isn’t a fix to this regardless unless all group members decide to appear offline.

Honestly based on the thread the OP should probably see therapy about getting their anxiety levels checked.

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If you put yourself as offline, you expect people to act like you are not playing, to not invite you and so on, but no, even if you put yourself as offline, anybody can just click on your name and see “spectate”, “invite to group”, “request to join group”, so people find out that you’re acutally online and playing, they will start chasing you and ask you why you put yourself as “appear offline”

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Instead of just telling them that you can only handle playing with one other person at a time? Seriously?

Not to mention the logistics of it would make it almost impossible, because they can just ask the person that you’re grouped with to join the group. So, it still wouldn’t work.

also…

That’s kind of their problem, not yours.

I get that you have some serious social anxiety but there are limits to what can be done.

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I have a person on my friend’s list I really don’t feel comfortable telling ‘not tonight’ because they end up acting like I ran over their cat and I don’t want to deal with the random guilt trips for not wanting to have them bring the chat I’m having with other friends to a standstill since they are too timid and meek of a person to really like, pal around with all the time. Sometimes I just wanna chill not babysit.

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Sounds like someone you should be removing from your friend’s list.

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If somebody is offline:

Nobody should be allowed to send you a message or invite you. Simple FIX

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Sometimes it’s a person you know even outside of the game, it’s not a good idea

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Sounds like someone you should be removing from your life.

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This is the situation with me.

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You could just tell the person “Sorry gonna play with a friend of mine for a bit.” Unless your friends are really shi**y people they should understand and leave you be.

EDIT: Sorry just read further down. I do think you just need to explain to that person the situation. Do so outside of game time so they don’t feel like youre denying them. Let them know at some random time - “btw I really only like playing with one person at a time so if I’m already playing just ask me another time and I’ll play later”

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OP could be in school and attend the same class as his friends ,a bit hard to remove people from your life in those circumstances

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Well you sound like someone that would get mad if your invitation to a party was declined.

I hope you see the irony here.

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alright, thanks a lot :slight_smile:

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Apparently gotta quote something here :

There is your answer

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It’s really not. It’s just that people are worried about the stigma. Same with unfriending people on facebook or whatever.

If it’s negative just cut it out of your life, you’ll be better off for it.