But I want people to like me dammit 
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Competitive events where interaction is super limited is probably not the place to worry about that 
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watch my stream! smashing pppl in wild with paladin aggro deck!!
This is a totally legit and normal reaction from a human being with sympathy. Lets be honest, online game are there to have fun, if you have to grow a thick skin in order to enjoy the game, the problem isn’t you.
Selwynn, while I understand your POV (which is basically stoicism), I think it’s a bit too easy to say ‘‘just don’t care about it’’. You probably have some thing that upset you, too. The problem isn’t the game interraction, the problem is 1- the needless waste of time, 2- the agressivity . Even If I didn’t care about the former, I’d still care about someone wasting my time.
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For me, having played other multiplayer games, nothing my opponent does really gets to me. Emotes do not bother me, unless they’re spammed (play with sound on). I am rarely ever roped, but if I am, I turn to my other monitor. I understand players wanting to display their turn’s full deadly potential by playing more cards despite having an obvious lethal.
However, nothing excuses bad manners and we should all strive to be decent human beings, hence decent to one another. Treat others as you’d like to be treated.
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bruh that is what makes classic good, for reasons…
be glad this is just solo game. Like in dota 2 more often happend your teammate intentionally feed opponents and u had to play entire 30-40min game otherwise lefting would mean ban for you.
Speed up animations
reward players with more experience if they finish their rounds quicker
build a community within the game that promotes mutual respect
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Far from it.
But all of that is an invention of your mind separate from anyone else.
I am actually wasting my time if I am playing a card game. The moment one accepts they’re just here for the lulz, no one bothers you in the game.
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Typical of people with low empathy that assume that everyone must and should be like them.
You’ve completely missed what I have said and then attempted to insult me, so I don’t grasp how you believe you have empathy, which you might be confusing with sympathy at this point.
And I won’t begin to explain how
is non sequitur from any of my previous points in this thread.
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The guy talks about invention of my mind as if I was a lunatic, tell everyone that they should learn from him and not feel what they feel, then plays the victims when he is told that he is self-centered.
Oh wait. Now is the time to throw out some random quote in latin to sound smarter. And to tell me that I use word that I don’t understand, which is exactly what he was doing a second ago.
Just like a wall. Throw a ball at him, he ll send boucing back.
And here you reveal part of your misunderstanding.
The assumption that events cause one’s reaction is false. One’s thoughts, feelings, and beliefs about events cause one’s reaction. By changing one’s beliefs about events one’s reactions are modified.
This is exactly what @skizzy described - when skizzy realized it was a bot the reaction was different. The experience was unchaged, but the beliefs about it were altered and the reaction changed.
I applauded Skizzy for this insight and growth.
Ha, victim, not so much.
Honestly, the most self centered thing going on in this exchange is your unwillingness to open your mind to bigger ideas, smug in your belief that everyone is not as intelligent as you - despite evidence directly contradictory to that assumption.
First, nothing was in quotation mark, which would be required to quote someone.
Second, non sequitur is a type of fallacy in reasoning or logic.
And it seems you have kept the trend going. Nice job! What’s your longest streak?
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Oh yeah, the whole ''I can control my feeling ‘’ part. You don’t feel pain when loved one die, cuz you control yourself. You don’t feel fear when faced with death threat either. And oh , when someone shove or insult you in the street, you don’t feel anything, because you know how to change your outlook on that as well. maybe its just the way this person communicate, but he didn’t mean any harm right? And death of people you love isn’t that terrible because you can look at it another way.
Well that complete bulls***.
As for the other part of your post, you’re basically praising Skizzy for listening to you, and blaming me for not. See the pattern? I do. Just wanted to point it out in case you didn’t realize, but I’m pretty sure you do .
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We’re talking about a game on a computer, though. Do you love your minions? Have you considered how that sounds?
Again, this isn’t hearthstone, at all. If you’re suffering in real life, I would encourage and implore you to seek help. Grief can be very difficult for people.
Honestly, yes.
Have you ever read anything about cognitive behavioral theory? You should investigate the work of Beck or even Albert Ellis, who was similar but much more charismatic.
Decades of theory, research, and practice disagree with you.
And for the record, my empathy has nothing to do with how I react to other players’ actions in hearthstone.
You called it stoicism, but that would be wrong because I would have to feel pain or hurt to be stoic in the face of it.
I have no emotional attachment to outcomes in hearthstone, so I just play and have fun. You can’t bm someone who doesn’t care.
As such, the problem isn’t the bm as much as how individuals allow it to disrupt their day. @Skizzy described exactly this point earlier.
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I’ll just point out a keyword for what Selwynn is promoting, for the people reading the thread.
it’s called Gaslighting, and its a very dangerous and toxic behavior. Basically negating the feeling of people, denying the importance of events and deforming information.
Then i’ll quit feeding this guys with my energy, since it’s perfectly useless.
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I believe this is specific to events that we have time to think about, but even then, not all. We all have instinctive or natural reactions to things, be it anger or sadness. Feelings are sometimes impossible to control, as well, even after reasonable rationalization. Right?
For instance, this guy is getting triggered by emotes and such in HS. He can come to realize that this is only a game, that the other person’s intent doesn’t matter, and so on, and still feel triggered despite all of that. Even knowing it shouldn’t be bothering him, it bothers him.
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Anyone operating under those circumstances has the responsibility of admitting then that THEY are the problem, not the object that they have an irrational reaction to.
I can have a fear of heights that I know is irrational, that doesn’t mean I should go around talking about how vertical elevation should be removed from society.
If YOU are the problem, you either fix the problem (yourself) or shut up about it. Very simple.
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I believe that in a social and practical sense, we need to hold one another and ourselves responsible for our actions. I believe it’s not irrational to blame others. I wouldn’t blame a rock for tripping over it, but that’s an orange, and we’re talking about apples (people).
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I believe practically, existence itself is chaotic and antagonistic and anyone unprepared for that reality or having fooled themselves into thinking they can change it is only doing themselves a disservice.