I am very frustrated with Tempering. It’s certainly better than what we had but it’s stressful (YMMV). I know a lot of folks here disagree and good for them! The system is working as intended, just not for me.
Going to the BS to Temper is dreadful and bricking a good item feels super bad and I loose interest in the game, making me want to quit. The rare (really rare) max roll of what I want, doesn’t help at all.
As I see it, five tries is not really enough without being able to keep a previous roll as a option (like enchanting). I get it, the devs don’t want it to be like enchanting and it’s not. Maybe more than five rolls would work too.
Obviously there is no fix that will satisfy everyone, I enjoy the game in general but Tempering is not for me and there is absolutely no way to avoid it. I wish I could.
Edit: another solution would be to allow “resets” like Masterworking. That would be best.