The difference is in the live service game of a baby, you are changing diapers constantly, addressing the problems as they arise, and actually developing the child.
Meanwhile, in D4, they have ignored poopy diapers. Denied their kids milk and let them starve. Let them fumble around and willfully not do things to improve the quality of life for the child. Diablo White Knights have supported this and have dismissed any criticism saying that “kids should have to suffer”. Instead of being an active parent and implementing Build Planning Tools and communicating with their children, they have decided they will let other people take care of that becauwe they cannot be bothered with being an adult.