I hate PVP Realms and I agree with you, OP.
I can feel my eyes rolling back into my head every time someone on the forums starts talking about how world pvp “used to be about honor” and “should be fair.” No, it’s not. That’s the point. You signed up for it. Shut up and deal with it; or roll on a PVE server (or turn off war mode). You know the policy is “red is dead” and beyond that it doesn’t matter.