As a healer, I kind of like make sure my tank is geared, I have 1 really geared dps and then will take ok ilevel dps as long as the key is forgiving. I like to give people a chance.
Join Wow Made Easy Discord, people are friendly there if you set your own expectations.
PS just never ever mention “carry” at WME or you’ll get a bot message “this is not a carry server”