Your repeated posts on this topic are discounting and invalidating op’s grief over the loss of a friend.
Your opinion on who you should grieve deeply for is personal and based on your own perspective. That opinion should stay in your own head when someone else shares what they are feeling. Your opinion is absolutely and completely irrelevant.
It’s is absolutely 100% normal and justified for OP to grieve a friend he may very well have been VERY close to online.
I’m starting to wonder how you could be so socially unaware, unless you have autism… in which case this makes sense, but you still need to be aware that you’re making an insensitive mistake.
I was thinking about that… .my conclusion is that:
He’s lying, and like a lot of people needs attention.
It’s true, doesnt have too many contacts/friends/family to talk about it. Writting and talking about tragedies is one of the best ways to soft them
It’s true, he isn’t in shock and/or does have talk about it with other people. Some people use their personal problems to get attention. This one only reveals another problems in this kind of people.
Normal and heathy people dont share very good news or really bad news without thinking about doing it a lot
I would love to be able to have compassion on you but I don’t really care at all since we all have our problems, there are 8 billion people and many died as I write this … and I do not know you. The rest of the comments telling you that they feel bad for you are lying
Don’t know I have social anxiety panic disorder as well as manic depression. Just thought to point out what poster above put in better terms…i know it would piss some off as all people do now is get offended and outrage against anything out the norm and attack and demonize.
People find it easier to focus anger then sadness its subjective but many shiwed the OP respect and those who didnt rather be the aggressive.
But while my words were hurtful it was ment as find family and friends to speak about this stuff with not online people who can easily be swayed to anger over text…
And to the guy calling my name imposter unless they made this name 24 gears ago for a demon wolf villain in a werewolf the apocolypse dnd game session with my friends then hes the fraud!
But on topic I do mean it when I say sorry for the ops loss as thats a pain not wished upon anyone. I guess if its an online friend then I guess wow forums make sense…didnt consider that. Thought might be a RL friend so thought it was really weird to bring to wow forums…felt kinda exploitive. Made me recall my papa asking about new girlfriend at nanas funeral and brought up some nasty emotions…im tired and just in a bad funk…just feels weird to me for this of all places to post a passing but I guess I dont really have friends that play so wouldnt have the same reason to post similar news.
I appreciate your post. When my mother died, I didn’t cry and I wasn’t really upset. She was sick for a long time, and I would be lying if I didn’t say I felt relieved. I personally felt like I grieved her passing before she actually did. Anyway, because it appeared to my family like my life just immediately moved on, and that I wasn’t just beside myself with grief for weeks, they would never let me hear the end of it. It made everything a lot worse than it was tbh.
Each death of someone close to us isn’t just painful, but a reminder of our own mortality. I’ve had several of those this past year.
Live life as much as possible. Do what you enjoy and be around the people you love while you can. Not only for yourself, but for them as well. You may wake up one day and find they’re gone, but worse… they may wake up and find you gone. Life is one big Memento Mori that way.
Thanks for this reply. Based on that response I do believe that you aren’t intentionally trying to hurt anybody with your statements. I just wanted you to recognize that what you were saying wasn’t very empathetic.
Some people actually form close relationships with friends in WOW. It’s important to recognize that some people don’t draw such a hard distinction between online and IRL friends.
I’ve made friends in wow that shared with me a lot about their personal lives. When you spend a couple of hours with someone almost every day those friendships can actually become really important and meaningful. It’s totally normal and human to grieve the loss of a friendship like that. Even if you never met in person.
Thanks for saving me the trouble of finding out later on that you should be put on ignore. You and Arashiko both. Makes my life easier when you trolls just immediately out yourselves.
OP, Ive lost friends, family and pets. It’s never easy, it will always hurt, but it will get easier with time. You have my empathy and my thoughts are with you and his family. Don’t listen to the trolls.
It’s so funny, too, Rosenivy, because it was the same people who raised me never to cry who wanted me to magically become a blubbering mess who outwardly displays emotion. It doesn’t work that way.
Ha ha ha…well, it didn’t for me. Like I said, people all grieve differently, and I think respecting another person’s process (or lack of one) is the best way to support them in the middle of pain. Just sit with it, whatever it looks like, and support it.
As for OP, who lost a WoW friend, it makes total sense to me that you would share that with a WoW group. My WoW people are special and dear to me, so I am truly sorry for OP’s loss.
Sorry to hear that. I think back then I was just trying to be “strong” for the rest of my family.
Then I just remember getting frustrated over something and it lead to me yelling that I hated my grandpa for dying. I didn’t really hate him. But it was the anger side of grief that just exploded and then I couldn’t stop crying.
Yep. Makes total sense. Mine was oddly like that with Nana. One day, about a year after her death, I just got mad at her. That broke the seal, and after that I was able to actively grieve. I’m sorry that happened to you, as well. It’s rough. Super rough.
Sorry to hear this.op.Do do one thing,keep in touch with the family ,both for them and you,grief does affect people during this time. I’ll keep you and them in prayer.
Some stuff that I’ve wrotte before works again with you… I really don’t care about your opinion and feelings
Please tell me how old are you. No fights here…
It always seemed to me that these new generations who are growing up in an already highly digitized world … that they would respond as you do.
Then if you do, you’re that young…
/hug
/kiss
you can do it!
What, with empathy? God forbid we have empathy that’s existed for centuries within human culture? Look, I don’t give two craps about where you grew up or how, but basic empathy is something everyone should have. No one cares if your loss was worse. Being empathetic to someone else is just simple, normal respect for another human being.
I don’t believe you’re older than I am given your attitude and I never grew up in a “highly digitized world.” Facebook had just released as a text based system on a black screen with green text for only college kids to connect with one another when I was in my last year of college.
Go be condescending elsewhere. Your attitude is disgusting. Apparently I needed to hit the “save” button to make sure you’re ignored. Good riddance.
Wow…not only are you unkind but you lie also. You don’t know me, but i am very sincere for him having lost a friend, and for a family that lost a loved one. WTH is wrong with you that you would say those of us who feel for him are liars?
Just because you are unsympathetic does not mean others are.
I hope if something sad ever happens to you, which i don’t wish on you, but if it does, i sure hope you’re shown more compassion than you just showed.
And just because you could say this unkind thing, does not mean you should.
You could have kept this nasty to yourself, but then, i could have kept this to myself also, but i guess like you, i just couldn’t.
Oh by the way, i’m not a youngun…i’m 61. Although what age has to do with kindness,…
